‘There’s a lack of positive space for men’
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A family court has said that if a wife insults her husband in the
presence of his friends or in the presence of her friends and relatives,
it amounts to cruelty. dna gets one man talking
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Amit Deshpande
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There is no help for a man if the wife is abusive. The
judgment where the court granted divorce to a man who accused his wife
of mental cruelty, citing her abusive behaviour towards him, his friends
and his relatives needs to be supported.
In a marital set-up, if a wife keeps on humiliating her husband for whatever reasons — financial or sexual incompetence — the man is bound to feel a loss of dignity and it is in no way different than the loss of dignity of a wife for any reason. We should see this in the same view of a man humiliating his wife by attacking her womanhood — when she is unable to bear a child — or even if he taunts her for her looks. As a progressive and just society, we should discourage any form of humiliation based upon gender roles. The Supreme Court has given many judgments in which it has granted divorce when the wife has been abusive towards her husband and insulted him in public. Today, men have no place to go to for help if they have an abusive wife or one who shows signs of compulsive obsessive disorder. Men do not even ask for help and continue to suffer in abusive relationships as it is considered unmanly to seek help. The real problem lies in the fact that society functions by creating competition among men. Unfortunately, in the patriarchal social mindset, a man has to earn his manhood to gain respect and survive. The emotions of a man are not respected in the same way as the emotions of a woman are. With the increasing focus on women’s issues, there is a lack of positive space for men in society. Many a time it is found that men turn violent towards themselves and take the extreme step. Every year, over 63,000 married men commit suicide in India. These men are mostly those who have proven their manhood and have become eligible for marriage, including many professionals. According to the principles of natural justice, this judgment seems a step in the right direction. ‘Humiliating hubby is cruelty’, p5 |
If a woman lodges a false complaint of rape, then she should be
prosecuted, observed the Bombay high court on Wednesday while granting
anticipatory bail to an Art of Living teacher accused of rape.
Justice Sadhana Jadhav said, “The police should be careful and distinguish between genuine cases and false complaints.”
The judge remarked that of late several cases were coming to the HC in
which ‘victims’ had filed rape complaints and alleged that they had
entered into relationships after being promised marriage.
“In a relationship between consenting adults, sometimes, such
complaints are filed in the heat of the moment. This sends wrong signals
to society,” observed justice Jadhav.
The judge said the police should conduct initial inquiry into the matter and decide whether it is a genuine complaint or not.
The court was hearing an anticipatory bail application filed by Divyesh
Vala, 35. He had sought anticipatory bail saying he has been falsely
implicated and the case is causing him severe harm and mental agony. The
complaint was filed by a central excise inspector, 42, alleging Vala
raped her on the pretext of marrying her.
According to additional public prosecutor, Anil Shitole, the victim,
who is also a divorcee, had contacted Vala through a social networking
website, where they became good friends. Vala later cut all ties with
her and married another woman in May. Following this, she registered a
complaint with the RAK Marg police station in June this year.
Justice Jadhav, while granting Vala anticipatory bail against a surety
of Rs15,000, said that both of them are adults and the victim, in her
complaint, never said that she had sexual relations with Vala because he
promised to marry her.
The court observed that Vala cannot be sent to custody as it would not
serve any fruitful purpose except satisfying the complainant’s vendetta.
Justice Jadhav has directed him to report to the RAK Marg police station on Sundays.
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