‘There’s a lack of positive space for men’
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A family court has said that if a wife insults her husband in the
presence of his friends or in the presence of her friends and relatives,
it amounts to cruelty. dna gets one man talking
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Amit Deshpande
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There is no help for a man if the wife is abusive. The
judgment where the court granted divorce to a man who accused his wife
of mental cruelty, citing her abusive behaviour towards him, his friends
and his relatives needs to be supported.
In a marital set-up, if a wife keeps on humiliating her husband for whatever reasons — financial or sexual incompetence — the man is bound to feel a loss of dignity and it is in no way different than the loss of dignity of a wife for any reason. We should see this in the same view of a man humiliating his wife by attacking her womanhood — when she is unable to bear a child — or even if he taunts her for her looks. As a progressive and just society, we should discourage any form of humiliation based upon gender roles. The Supreme Court has given many judgments in which it has granted divorce when the wife has been abusive towards her husband and insulted him in public. Today, men have no place to go to for help if they have an abusive wife or one who shows signs of compulsive obsessive disorder. Men do not even ask for help and continue to suffer in abusive relationships as it is considered unmanly to seek help. The real problem lies in the fact that society functions by creating competition among men. Unfortunately, in the patriarchal social mindset, a man has to earn his manhood to gain respect and survive. The emotions of a man are not respected in the same way as the emotions of a woman are. With the increasing focus on women’s issues, there is a lack of positive space for men in society. Many a time it is found that men turn violent towards themselves and take the extreme step. Every year, over 63,000 married men commit suicide in India. These men are mostly those who have proven their manhood and have become eligible for marriage, including many professionals. According to the principles of natural justice, this judgment seems a step in the right direction. ‘Humiliating hubby is cruelty’, p5 |
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Wednesday, 4 September 2013
‘There’s a lack of positive space for men’
Tuesday, 27 August 2013
Men's rights activists hope Lok Sabha won't okay 'husband killer law'
The
Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill, dubbed as a husband killer law by men’s
rights activists, was approved by the Rajya Sabha on Monday. Men’s
rights groups who have been staging nationwide protests and holding
debates on the issue say they will continue to meet with lawmakers to
persuade them not to pass the bill in the Lok Sabha.
Virag Dhulia, a leading men’s rights activist, told rediff.com that they were trying to establish communication with members of Parliament on the subject. “We are telling them about the problems this bill would cause as the male in general is the stakeholder in this draconian law. We are trying to tell them what changes ought to be made to this bill and how, if it gets presidential assent, it would become a disaster. We hope our lawmakers would take into consideration all this and not to pass bills merley keeping in mind vote bank politics.”
Among other things the Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill empowers the courts to decide the compensation amount for the wife and children from the husband’s inherited and inheritable properties once the marriage ends legally. The Bill allows parties to file for divorce on the ground of “irretrievable breakdown” of marriage. Both parties have to live apart for at least three years before filing such a petition.
Dhulia points out, “Basically the hard-earned money and property of the man will not belong to him” once this Bill becomes law.
The Bill also provides for restricting the grant of a decree of divorce if the court is satisfied that adequate provision for maintenance of the children has not been made consistent with the financial capacity of the parties to the marriage.
Also, the wife has the right to oppose the grant of divorce on the ground that the dissolution of marriage could result in grave financial hardship, but no such provision has been made for the husband. “Law Minister Kapil Sibal has totally ignored the National Crime Records Bureau data which states that every year more than 65,000 married men end their lives,” the activists point out.
As per the Bill’s statement of objectives, the Hindu Marriage Act and the Special Marriages Act have proved to be inadequate in dealing with cases where there has been an irretrievable breakdown of marriage and hence it was decided to amend the law. Even the Supreme Court had pointed out the need to introduce ‘irretrievable breakdown of marriage’ and ‘mutual consent’ as grounds for granting divorce in order to reduce litigation and to enable both parties move on in their life.
What Sibal failed to take into consideration was how such a law would reduce litigation when cases filed by women under the dowry and harassment laws and child custody are not decided at the time of issuing a divorce decree, the activists point out.
http://www.rediff.com/news/report/mens-rights-activists-hope-lok-sabha-wont-okay-husband-killer-law/20130827.htm?sc_cid=fbshare
Virag Dhulia, a leading men’s rights activist, told rediff.com that they were trying to establish communication with members of Parliament on the subject. “We are telling them about the problems this bill would cause as the male in general is the stakeholder in this draconian law. We are trying to tell them what changes ought to be made to this bill and how, if it gets presidential assent, it would become a disaster. We hope our lawmakers would take into consideration all this and not to pass bills merley keeping in mind vote bank politics.”
Among other things the Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill empowers the courts to decide the compensation amount for the wife and children from the husband’s inherited and inheritable properties once the marriage ends legally. The Bill allows parties to file for divorce on the ground of “irretrievable breakdown” of marriage. Both parties have to live apart for at least three years before filing such a petition.
Dhulia points out, “Basically the hard-earned money and property of the man will not belong to him” once this Bill becomes law.
The Bill also provides for restricting the grant of a decree of divorce if the court is satisfied that adequate provision for maintenance of the children has not been made consistent with the financial capacity of the parties to the marriage.
Also, the wife has the right to oppose the grant of divorce on the ground that the dissolution of marriage could result in grave financial hardship, but no such provision has been made for the husband. “Law Minister Kapil Sibal has totally ignored the National Crime Records Bureau data which states that every year more than 65,000 married men end their lives,” the activists point out.
As per the Bill’s statement of objectives, the Hindu Marriage Act and the Special Marriages Act have proved to be inadequate in dealing with cases where there has been an irretrievable breakdown of marriage and hence it was decided to amend the law. Even the Supreme Court had pointed out the need to introduce ‘irretrievable breakdown of marriage’ and ‘mutual consent’ as grounds for granting divorce in order to reduce litigation and to enable both parties move on in their life.
What Sibal failed to take into consideration was how such a law would reduce litigation when cases filed by women under the dowry and harassment laws and child custody are not decided at the time of issuing a divorce decree, the activists point out.
http://www.rediff.com/news/report/mens-rights-activists-hope-lok-sabha-wont-okay-husband-killer-law/20130827.htm?sc_cid=fbshare
Monday, 26 August 2013
Indian men treated as Collateral Damage
Collateral Damage is what I begin to feel can best describe the
situation for treatment of men in India, after watching a discussion by
parliamentarians. The Indian parliament passed a bill that would amend
the Hindu Marriage Law introducing new grounds of divorce under a
situation described as “Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage.” Needless
to say it is heavily loaded against men and is being passed on as
“social justice.”
India had a hierarchical caste system, wherein the lower castes were denied certain opportunities, while the higher castes carried certain responsibilities and enjoyed liberties. In some ways, when the question of emancipation of the neglected came, it was found justifiable that sharing the limited resources by denying rights to one section and handing it over to another was social justice.
Later another form of social justice came up. This time with the baggage of a false notion of “patriarchy,” India was convinced that women have been deprived of rights and they need empowerment. Although, the definition of women remained, and even now remains only restricted to, being a wife. Any other role of woman in a household -mothers and sisters of a husband- does not evoke the same emotions due to some convoluted perception of a marital set-up by feminists and their backers.
Laws after laws are being created, which are being called pro-women, but in reality are only anti-men. When the flaws in these laws are highlighted the arguments usually end-up with mentioning of the historical disadvantage that women have had in India. Misandry like a hydra-headed monster rises in all of its forms. Somehow, it has become acceptable to unnecessarily punish the men of today to try to salvage the situation of women.
The men of my generation have begun to wonder if they are being used as fodder, so that the proponents of social justice could counter the sense of guilt in their hearts. Every politician we meet says he understands we are being discriminated against. Every person agreed that the law being framed for Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage was biased against men. Most tried to explain to us how the society in general is going through a transitional phase and ‘some’ men will suffer until equilibrium is attained. Never mind that they want to dismiss the facts about the ‘some’ men being a humungous number of 65000 married men committing suicide every year in India. The urge for the soothsayers to live in denial, makes them forget that the figure means every 7 minutes a married man commits suicide in India.
They can continue to become reason for someone’s death. But we refuse to become ‘Collateral Damage’ in their process of attaining self-satisfaction to achieve some irrational form of social justice. The Men’s rights movement in India is only getting stronger and it reflects in today’s discussion on the amendment to the marriage law in Rajya Sabha – the upper house of parliament. The discussion on this law has been another landmark for men’s rights in India, with many members from opposition regional political parties voicing the agenda of men’s rights in parliament which will go on record in the annals of history. The Law Minister had to misinform the house, at certain points to gain support, for e.g. he said the bill is gender neutral, when he knows it is not – a husband cannot oppose a petition filed by a wife, property(self-acquired before or after marriage, inherited and also inheritable) of only the husband is considered for division. The statements will be well documented in the records. History will judge that the people who brought this law were on the wrong side of justice.
The discussion has been storified here http://storify.com/antidespondent/irretrievable-breakdown-of-marriage-discussion-in
The only fear is the passage of this law, should not accelerate the numbers of suicides by men, who might feel there is no hope of help from the society. Thereby lies, the next challenge for the men’s rights activists in India, to continue reaching out to a populace of 500 million men.
India had a hierarchical caste system, wherein the lower castes were denied certain opportunities, while the higher castes carried certain responsibilities and enjoyed liberties. In some ways, when the question of emancipation of the neglected came, it was found justifiable that sharing the limited resources by denying rights to one section and handing it over to another was social justice.
Later another form of social justice came up. This time with the baggage of a false notion of “patriarchy,” India was convinced that women have been deprived of rights and they need empowerment. Although, the definition of women remained, and even now remains only restricted to, being a wife. Any other role of woman in a household -mothers and sisters of a husband- does not evoke the same emotions due to some convoluted perception of a marital set-up by feminists and their backers.
Laws after laws are being created, which are being called pro-women, but in reality are only anti-men. When the flaws in these laws are highlighted the arguments usually end-up with mentioning of the historical disadvantage that women have had in India. Misandry like a hydra-headed monster rises in all of its forms. Somehow, it has become acceptable to unnecessarily punish the men of today to try to salvage the situation of women.
The men of my generation have begun to wonder if they are being used as fodder, so that the proponents of social justice could counter the sense of guilt in their hearts. Every politician we meet says he understands we are being discriminated against. Every person agreed that the law being framed for Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage was biased against men. Most tried to explain to us how the society in general is going through a transitional phase and ‘some’ men will suffer until equilibrium is attained. Never mind that they want to dismiss the facts about the ‘some’ men being a humungous number of 65000 married men committing suicide every year in India. The urge for the soothsayers to live in denial, makes them forget that the figure means every 7 minutes a married man commits suicide in India.
They can continue to become reason for someone’s death. But we refuse to become ‘Collateral Damage’ in their process of attaining self-satisfaction to achieve some irrational form of social justice. The Men’s rights movement in India is only getting stronger and it reflects in today’s discussion on the amendment to the marriage law in Rajya Sabha – the upper house of parliament. The discussion on this law has been another landmark for men’s rights in India, with many members from opposition regional political parties voicing the agenda of men’s rights in parliament which will go on record in the annals of history. The Law Minister had to misinform the house, at certain points to gain support, for e.g. he said the bill is gender neutral, when he knows it is not – a husband cannot oppose a petition filed by a wife, property(self-acquired before or after marriage, inherited and also inheritable) of only the husband is considered for division. The statements will be well documented in the records. History will judge that the people who brought this law were on the wrong side of justice.
The discussion has been storified here http://storify.com/antidespondent/irretrievable-breakdown-of-marriage-discussion-in
The only fear is the passage of this law, should not accelerate the numbers of suicides by men, who might feel there is no hope of help from the society. Thereby lies, the next challenge for the men’s rights activists in India, to continue reaching out to a populace of 500 million men.
Consensual sex with minor not a crime, Delhi court says
NEW
DELHI: A city court has observed that consensual sex with a girl aged
below 18 years does not constitute an offence under the Protection of
Children from Sexual Offences (POCSO) Act.
The court said the provisions of POCSO Act suggest that where a physical relationship — which is not in the nature of an assault — takes place with the minor girl's consent and where the consent has not been obtained unlawfully, no offence can be said to have been committed.
Rejecting the plea of the police and Delhi Commission for Women that POCSO Act prohibits minors from having any kind sexual relationship, additional sessions judge Dharmesh Sharma said, "I am afraid if that interpretation is allowed, it would mean that the human body of every individual under 18 years is the property of the state and no individual below 18 years can be allowed to have pleasures associated with one's body."
ASJ Sharma, however, urged state authorities to spread awareness related to unsafe sex or early marriage. "But there lies a greater responsibility on all of us, the state including police in spreading and creating public awareness about the impact of girl or boy marrying at a tender age or indulging in unsafe sexual activities," he said.
The court made these observations while acquitting a 22-year-old youth of charges of kidnapping and raping a 15-year-old girl whom he later married. The youth, a native of West Bengal, was acquitted of the charges as the court held that the minor, on her own will, accompanied him and obstacles should not be put in their happy married life.
"As the evidence indicates, they got married voluntarily with their free consent. Hence no case is made out under section 363 (kidnapping) and 366 (kidnapping or inducing woman to compel her marriage) of the IPC," the court said.
"In my opinion, it would neither serve the object of present enactment (POCSO Act) nor the purpose of criminal laws to hold the accused guilty on the ground that he had sexual intercourse with the girl below 18 years," the judge said, adding that it would not be good for the girl if her husband was sent to jail. The POCSO Act treats girls and boys below 18 years of age as minors.
"It is high time that state authorities, its machinery, NGOs and women groups made a determined and sustained endeavour to reach out to all in schools, colleges and residential places, thereby creating public awareness on various aspects of life in case of marriage at a tender age... besides creating awareness amongst adolescents and young adults about the serious psychological and physical health issues that such a relation entails," the court observed.
According to the prosecution, a complaint was filed before the police on March 5 by the minor girl's mother about her daughter going missing since February 26.
The accused was arrested on March 6 and the girl was also recovered from his custody, it said. The girl, in her statement recorded before a magistrate, said she had willingly gone with the accused to his native place in Kolkata and they got married in a temple there and since then they have been living together.
During the trial, the youth told the court that the girl had accompanied him to Kolkata on her own and they got married there but he denied having physical relations with her. The court also noted that the marriage was accepted by the girl's mother. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Consensual-sex-with-minor-not-a-crime-Delhi-court-says/articleshow/22056783.cms
The court said the provisions of POCSO Act suggest that where a physical relationship — which is not in the nature of an assault — takes place with the minor girl's consent and where the consent has not been obtained unlawfully, no offence can be said to have been committed.
Rejecting the plea of the police and Delhi Commission for Women that POCSO Act prohibits minors from having any kind sexual relationship, additional sessions judge Dharmesh Sharma said, "I am afraid if that interpretation is allowed, it would mean that the human body of every individual under 18 years is the property of the state and no individual below 18 years can be allowed to have pleasures associated with one's body."
ASJ Sharma, however, urged state authorities to spread awareness related to unsafe sex or early marriage. "But there lies a greater responsibility on all of us, the state including police in spreading and creating public awareness about the impact of girl or boy marrying at a tender age or indulging in unsafe sexual activities," he said.
The court made these observations while acquitting a 22-year-old youth of charges of kidnapping and raping a 15-year-old girl whom he later married. The youth, a native of West Bengal, was acquitted of the charges as the court held that the minor, on her own will, accompanied him and obstacles should not be put in their happy married life.
"As the evidence indicates, they got married voluntarily with their free consent. Hence no case is made out under section 363 (kidnapping) and 366 (kidnapping or inducing woman to compel her marriage) of the IPC," the court said.
"In my opinion, it would neither serve the object of present enactment (POCSO Act) nor the purpose of criminal laws to hold the accused guilty on the ground that he had sexual intercourse with the girl below 18 years," the judge said, adding that it would not be good for the girl if her husband was sent to jail. The POCSO Act treats girls and boys below 18 years of age as minors.
"It is high time that state authorities, its machinery, NGOs and women groups made a determined and sustained endeavour to reach out to all in schools, colleges and residential places, thereby creating public awareness on various aspects of life in case of marriage at a tender age... besides creating awareness amongst adolescents and young adults about the serious psychological and physical health issues that such a relation entails," the court observed.
According to the prosecution, a complaint was filed before the police on March 5 by the minor girl's mother about her daughter going missing since February 26.
The accused was arrested on March 6 and the girl was also recovered from his custody, it said. The girl, in her statement recorded before a magistrate, said she had willingly gone with the accused to his native place in Kolkata and they got married in a temple there and since then they have been living together.
During the trial, the youth told the court that the girl had accompanied him to Kolkata on her own and they got married there but he denied having physical relations with her. The court also noted that the marriage was accepted by the girl's mother. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Consensual-sex-with-minor-not-a-crime-Delhi-court-says/articleshow/22056783.cms
Rajya Sabha passes marriage laws amendment bill
New Delhi, Aug 26 (IANS) The Rajya Sabha Monday passed a bill to amend marriage laws
which seeks to provide for irretrievable breakdown of marriage as a
ground for divorce, subject to certain safeguards to the wife and
affected children.
The Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill, 2010 was passed by voice vote. It seeks to amend the Hindu Marriage Act 1955 and the Special Marriages Act, 1954.
Replying to the brief debate, Law Minister Kapil Sibal said there was need to protect women's rights as the society was still patriarchal.
"So let's be clear. Legislations are a message that MPs are on the side of women in a patriarchal society. With this intent we bring this bill," he said.
Speaking on the amendments, Sibal said the share of wife in husband's self-acquired property will be decided by court. He said the wife also has a share in the movable property of her husband.
He said the wife does not have share in inherited property but its value will be taken into account while fixing the amount of alimony to her.
He said either husband or wife can cite irretrievable breakdown of marriage as a ground of divorce.
There have been concerns that provisions of earlier marriage acts were inadequate in cases of irretrievable breakdown of marriage.
http://www.newstrackindia.com/newsdetails/2013/08/26/340--Rajya-Sabha-passes-marriage-laws-amendment-bill-.html
The Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill, 2010 was passed by voice vote. It seeks to amend the Hindu Marriage Act 1955 and the Special Marriages Act, 1954.
Replying to the brief debate, Law Minister Kapil Sibal said there was need to protect women's rights as the society was still patriarchal.
"So let's be clear. Legislations are a message that MPs are on the side of women in a patriarchal society. With this intent we bring this bill," he said.
Speaking on the amendments, Sibal said the share of wife in husband's self-acquired property will be decided by court. He said the wife also has a share in the movable property of her husband.
He said the wife does not have share in inherited property but its value will be taken into account while fixing the amount of alimony to her.
He said either husband or wife can cite irretrievable breakdown of marriage as a ground of divorce.
There have been concerns that provisions of earlier marriage acts were inadequate in cases of irretrievable breakdown of marriage.
http://www.newstrackindia.com/newsdetails/2013/08/26/340--Rajya-Sabha-passes-marriage-laws-amendment-bill-.html
Tuesday, 20 August 2013
43-year-old man arrested for blackmailing wife over dowry demands
43-year-old man arrested for blackmailing wife over dowry demands
A businessman was held here for blackmailing his wife and demanding from her family after threatening to release her nude photographs on the internet, police said Tuesday.
Accused Gagandeep, 43, a resident of DLF Phase-1, was arrested on Monday night for shooting nude photographs of his wife, 40, and threatening to upload the pictures on the , police said.
"We are investigating the case," Surender Phogat, chief of DLF Phase-1 police station, told IANS.
The two got married more than a decade ago and have two children, police said.
The businessman was Tuesday presented in a court which sent him to one day police custody for questioning.
http://ibnlive.in.com/news/43yearold-man-arrested-for-blackmailing-wife-over-dowry-demands/415911-3-240.html
A businessman was held here for blackmailing his wife and demanding from her family after threatening to release her nude photographs on the internet, police said Tuesday.
Accused Gagandeep, 43, a resident of DLF Phase-1, was arrested on Monday night for shooting nude photographs of his wife, 40, and threatening to upload the pictures on the , police said.
"We are investigating the case," Surender Phogat, chief of DLF Phase-1 police station, told IANS.
The two got married more than a decade ago and have two children, police said.
The businessman was Tuesday presented in a court which sent him to one day police custody for questioning.
http://ibnlive.in.com/news/43yearold-man-arrested-for-blackmailing-wife-over-dowry-demands/415911-3-240.html
Monday, 19 August 2013
“I will fight against misuse of 498A”, affirms Prince Tuli in Nagpur; To sue ‘Zanjeer’ producers for using bike sans permission
It’s been a while since the ugly face of marriage between Prince Tuli
and his estranged wife formerly crowned Miss India Yukta Mookhey came
out in the open. The allegations and counter charges framed by Yukta
against her beleaguered husband followed by severe jolts received on the
part of the latter and his family only worsened the situation. However
all the allegations came from Yukta while Tuli chose to keep mum as the
case progressed in the court of law. Even Tuli categorically denied
giving any interview which quoted him as citing adultery behind the
broken marriage. The interview was carried across media.
Nagpur Today got to interact with Prince Tuli to hear his side of story. In an exclusive chat with Nagpur Today, Prince Tuli opened up his heart regarding various unwanted and disappointing events taking place in his life! Prince also spoke at length about his Superbike, Kawasaki Ninja ZX 14 Limited Edition which has been featured in first song titled ‘Mumbai Ke Heroes’ from the film Zanjeer, without his permission.
The Excerpts…
Nagpur Today : Is it true that you dint give any interview regarding the allegations of Yukta on you to Mumbai mirror?
Prince Tuli : Yes! I definitely haven’t quoted anything in this context to any media till date. When I’m not allowed to do so by law, why would I do so and see myself behind bars? Plus I would never disrespect the mother of my child, and clean my dirty laundry in public.
Nagpur Today : Were the statements mentioned in that interview true?
Prince Tuli : I never quoted such statements. I am a stake holder at the Adai Mehra Production Pvt Ltd. I gave an interview regarding the remake of the movie ‘Zanjeer’ remake, and nothing related to what is published.
Nagpur Today : How is your family doing?
Prince Tuli : We are going through tough time. All my family has to come and report at Mumbai. My mother is a cancer patient. She is such an adorable and straight person who doesn’t at all deserve such a harsh treatment. Yet she has to travel twice a week to Mumbai and report at the police. The policemen harass her by asking uncomfortable and upsetting questions. Such harassment of an old lady is just inhumane.
Nagpur Today : What shall be your future course of action in this context?
Prince Tuli : Around fifty to sixty thousand people commit suicide every year just because of these fake, fictitious allegations and misuse of the 498 A law. It’s high time that this victimization of families and the stupid gender bias should be stopped. I’ll fight not just for myself, but every victim of the misuse of this law till I breathe my last.
Nagpur Today : Yukta has openly come forward, even in front of media and put allegations on you. Why have you not come up with your side of explanations and proved your point straight in public?
Prince Tuli : We are ‘Khaandani’. We shall never entertain or put forth anything undue and despicable for that matter. Whosoever needs cheap publicity can definitely grab it, we would never let our standards fall! We have never talked abrupt; in future as well we shall remain composed in spite of the cheap compellations.
Nagpur Today: It is learnt that your bike has been featured in the title track of Zanjeer the promos of which are out now. But you have some issues with the producers?
Prince Tuli : The co-producers of this film are Reliance Entertainment and Amit Mehra’s Flying Turtle Films. I shall even sue the producers, Reliance Big Entertainment Pvt. Ltd., if entire song is not omitted from the flick, because the bike has been used without my permission.
Apoorva Lakhia approached me to borrow my bike for a friendly ride, wherein I refused to part with my bike but on continuous persistence agreed to let Lakhia ride the bike.
The bike is extremely dear to me and i have an emotional connect with it. I had bought this bike in the year 2008 and had specially imported this bike from New York which at that time costed approximately Rs.35 lacs. I was shocked when I discovered the presence of bike in the song of movie directed by Lakhia and was extremely hurt that the bike which was taken on a friendly ride, without my consent was used for commercial purpose in the film. I have asked to immediately remove every scene featuring my bike failing which legal action would be initiated.
http://www.nagpurtoday.in/i-will-not-say-anything-for-cheap-publicity-reverts-prince-tuli-in-nagpur/
Nagpur Today got to interact with Prince Tuli to hear his side of story. In an exclusive chat with Nagpur Today, Prince Tuli opened up his heart regarding various unwanted and disappointing events taking place in his life! Prince also spoke at length about his Superbike, Kawasaki Ninja ZX 14 Limited Edition which has been featured in first song titled ‘Mumbai Ke Heroes’ from the film Zanjeer, without his permission.
The Excerpts…
Nagpur Today : Is it true that you dint give any interview regarding the allegations of Yukta on you to Mumbai mirror?
Prince Tuli : Yes! I definitely haven’t quoted anything in this context to any media till date. When I’m not allowed to do so by law, why would I do so and see myself behind bars? Plus I would never disrespect the mother of my child, and clean my dirty laundry in public.
Nagpur Today : Were the statements mentioned in that interview true?
Prince Tuli : I never quoted such statements. I am a stake holder at the Adai Mehra Production Pvt Ltd. I gave an interview regarding the remake of the movie ‘Zanjeer’ remake, and nothing related to what is published.
Nagpur Today : How is your family doing?
Prince Tuli : We are going through tough time. All my family has to come and report at Mumbai. My mother is a cancer patient. She is such an adorable and straight person who doesn’t at all deserve such a harsh treatment. Yet she has to travel twice a week to Mumbai and report at the police. The policemen harass her by asking uncomfortable and upsetting questions. Such harassment of an old lady is just inhumane.
Nagpur Today : What shall be your future course of action in this context?
Prince Tuli : Around fifty to sixty thousand people commit suicide every year just because of these fake, fictitious allegations and misuse of the 498 A law. It’s high time that this victimization of families and the stupid gender bias should be stopped. I’ll fight not just for myself, but every victim of the misuse of this law till I breathe my last.
Nagpur Today : Yukta has openly come forward, even in front of media and put allegations on you. Why have you not come up with your side of explanations and proved your point straight in public?
Prince Tuli : We are ‘Khaandani’. We shall never entertain or put forth anything undue and despicable for that matter. Whosoever needs cheap publicity can definitely grab it, we would never let our standards fall! We have never talked abrupt; in future as well we shall remain composed in spite of the cheap compellations.
Nagpur Today: It is learnt that your bike has been featured in the title track of Zanjeer the promos of which are out now. But you have some issues with the producers?
Prince Tuli : The co-producers of this film are Reliance Entertainment and Amit Mehra’s Flying Turtle Films. I shall even sue the producers, Reliance Big Entertainment Pvt. Ltd., if entire song is not omitted from the flick, because the bike has been used without my permission.
Apoorva Lakhia approached me to borrow my bike for a friendly ride, wherein I refused to part with my bike but on continuous persistence agreed to let Lakhia ride the bike.
The bike is extremely dear to me and i have an emotional connect with it. I had bought this bike in the year 2008 and had specially imported this bike from New York which at that time costed approximately Rs.35 lacs. I was shocked when I discovered the presence of bike in the song of movie directed by Lakhia and was extremely hurt that the bike which was taken on a friendly ride, without my consent was used for commercial purpose in the film. I have asked to immediately remove every scene featuring my bike failing which legal action would be initiated.
http://www.nagpurtoday.in/i-will-not-say-anything-for-cheap-publicity-reverts-prince-tuli-in-nagpur/
Thursday, 15 August 2013
Wednesday, 7 August 2013
कुंवारों को हिलाकर रख देने वाली खबर, इन मैडम की तो ये 50वीं शादी है...
कुंवारों को हिलाकर रख देने वाली खबर, इन मैडम की तो ये 50वीं शादी है...
भरूच (गुजरात)। खबर का शीर्षक पढ़कर आप चौंक गए होंगे, लेकिन यह घटना सच है। वालिया तालुका के वांकल गांव में रहने वाली सोनल उर्फ गीता मूलजी राठवा का असली नाम शारदा जयसिंग वसावा है।
सोनल अब तक 50 मर्दों को हिलाकर रख चुकी है। शारदा अब तक एक-दो नहीं बल्कि पूरी 50 शादी कर चुकी है। बस अब इसे सोनल की बदकिस्मती कहिए या फिर अन्य मर्दो की खुशकिस्मती कि ये 51वीं शादी नहीं कर पाएगी।
http://www.bhaskar.com/article-hf/GUJ-women-who-marriage-with-50-mens-4341554-PHO.html?seq=1
भरूच (गुजरात)। खबर का शीर्षक पढ़कर आप चौंक गए होंगे, लेकिन यह घटना सच है। वालिया तालुका के वांकल गांव में रहने वाली सोनल उर्फ गीता मूलजी राठवा का असली नाम शारदा जयसिंग वसावा है।
सोनल अब तक 50 मर्दों को हिलाकर रख चुकी है। शारदा अब तक एक-दो नहीं बल्कि पूरी 50 शादी कर चुकी है। बस अब इसे सोनल की बदकिस्मती कहिए या फिर अन्य मर्दो की खुशकिस्मती कि ये 51वीं शादी नहीं कर पाएगी।
http://www.bhaskar.com/article-hf/GUJ-women-who-marriage-with-50-mens-4341554-PHO.html?seq=1
Wednesday, 31 July 2013
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Friday, 19 July 2013
New bill gives woman share in ex-husband’s inherited property
New bill gives woman share in ex-husband’s inherited property
NEW
DELHI: A wife will have a share in her husband's inherited or
inheritable marital property on divorce, though the exact quantum of the
compensation has been left to the discretion of the judge, according to
a legislation that was cleared by the Union Cabinet on Wednesday.
The Cabinet also cleared the proposal that in cases where divorce has been sought on mutual consent of both parties the judiciary has been given the discretion to grant divorce to one party after a period of three years, even if the man and the wife are no longer on the same page. These were part of the recommendations of the GoM on Marriage Laws Amendment Bill which will now be amended suitably before being brought to Parliament during the monsoon session, beginning August 5.
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-07-17/india/40634500_1_mutual-consent-marital-property-divorce-case
The Cabinet also cleared the proposal that in cases where divorce has been sought on mutual consent of both parties the judiciary has been given the discretion to grant divorce to one party after a period of three years, even if the man and the wife are no longer on the same page. These were part of the recommendations of the GoM on Marriage Laws Amendment Bill which will now be amended suitably before being brought to Parliament during the monsoon session, beginning August 5.
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-07-17/india/40634500_1_mutual-consent-marital-property-divorce-case
Study finds divorced women’s trauma in securing alimony
Study finds divorced women’s trauma in securing alimony
NEW DELHI: While the Cabinet's decision on Wednesday may appear tipped in favour of women, a recent study shows that seeking maintenance through courts is fraught with delays and requires deep pockets. The countrywide study shows that in nearly 50% cases women did not seek maintenance from their husbands either because they lacked resources (41.5% women had no income after separation while 27% earned less than Rs 2,000 per month) or were unaware.
The government has set the ball rolling for bringing in an amendment to the marriage legislation that will give a woman right to the inherited or inheritable marital property. The compensation amount will be decided by the courts. Divorced or separated women in India have to depend on maintenance since there are no laws for sharing of marital property. The proposed law seeks to correct that but activists feel it does this only half-heartedly.
A survey — based on 405 divorced and separated women across the country — says that getting justice from courts has always been a gamble for women. The survey is part of the book "Separated and Divorced Women in India: Economic Rights and Entitlements in India'' authored by senior lawyer and AIDWA legal convener Kirti Singh. Women's rights activists have been consistently demanding a comprehensive legislation that would provide a women equitable share to marital property.
The survey found that vast majority (almost 60%) were living in marital homes acquired by in-laws and a large number (71%) were forced to live with their families post separation. After the separation 41.5% had no income and 27.4% earned less than Rs 2,000 per month. Although 58.5% surveyed were able to work outside their home, their earnings were too low for them to survive independently.
"In India there is absence of laws for division of marital property, when a separation or divorce takes place, the male spouse usually walks away with all moveable and immoveable assets of the household. The government's decision is just throwing women at the court's discretion and we have found that courts have been conservative in their decisions,'' Singh said.
Of the total, 47.4% (almost half) did not ask for maintenance after divorce. The reasons range from not knowing that they are entitled to ask for maintenance, to not having money to approach the courts or wishing not to be dependent on the spouse. As many as 48.8% of these maintenance cases are pending; in 41.8% of the case smaintenace had been allowed and in 9.4% of the cases their applications were dismissed. In 89 cases where maintenance was allowed, only 12 women reported receiving a satisfactory amount.
Of the 60 women who answered the question on the quantum of maintenance awarded to them, those with no income at all received merely 13% of the salary on an average for financial support. So not only were women given short shrift, they were also forced to wait for a long time before they received the paltry amount. Only in 35.6% of the cases filed in court, was maintenance granted within a year. The rest took anywhere between one and five years.http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Study-finds-divorced-womens-trauma-in-securing-alimony/articleshow/21155954.cms
NEW DELHI: While the Cabinet's decision on Wednesday may appear tipped in favour of women, a recent study shows that seeking maintenance through courts is fraught with delays and requires deep pockets. The countrywide study shows that in nearly 50% cases women did not seek maintenance from their husbands either because they lacked resources (41.5% women had no income after separation while 27% earned less than Rs 2,000 per month) or were unaware.
The government has set the ball rolling for bringing in an amendment to the marriage legislation that will give a woman right to the inherited or inheritable marital property. The compensation amount will be decided by the courts. Divorced or separated women in India have to depend on maintenance since there are no laws for sharing of marital property. The proposed law seeks to correct that but activists feel it does this only half-heartedly.
A survey — based on 405 divorced and separated women across the country — says that getting justice from courts has always been a gamble for women. The survey is part of the book "Separated and Divorced Women in India: Economic Rights and Entitlements in India'' authored by senior lawyer and AIDWA legal convener Kirti Singh. Women's rights activists have been consistently demanding a comprehensive legislation that would provide a women equitable share to marital property.
The survey found that vast majority (almost 60%) were living in marital homes acquired by in-laws and a large number (71%) were forced to live with their families post separation. After the separation 41.5% had no income and 27.4% earned less than Rs 2,000 per month. Although 58.5% surveyed were able to work outside their home, their earnings were too low for them to survive independently.
"In India there is absence of laws for division of marital property, when a separation or divorce takes place, the male spouse usually walks away with all moveable and immoveable assets of the household. The government's decision is just throwing women at the court's discretion and we have found that courts have been conservative in their decisions,'' Singh said.
Of the total, 47.4% (almost half) did not ask for maintenance after divorce. The reasons range from not knowing that they are entitled to ask for maintenance, to not having money to approach the courts or wishing not to be dependent on the spouse. As many as 48.8% of these maintenance cases are pending; in 41.8% of the case smaintenace had been allowed and in 9.4% of the cases their applications were dismissed. In 89 cases where maintenance was allowed, only 12 women reported receiving a satisfactory amount.
Of the 60 women who answered the question on the quantum of maintenance awarded to them, those with no income at all received merely 13% of the salary on an average for financial support. So not only were women given short shrift, they were also forced to wait for a long time before they received the paltry amount. Only in 35.6% of the cases filed in court, was maintenance granted within a year. The rest took anywhere between one and five years.http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Study-finds-divorced-womens-trauma-in-securing-alimony/articleshow/21155954.cms
Wednesday, 17 July 2013
Government likely to discuss GoM's recommendations on marriage laws
Government likely to discuss GoM's recommendations on marriage laws
The government is likely to consider on Wednesday the recommendations of a Group of Ministers (GoM) to make marriage laws more women friendly. One of the key issues the GoM was asked to decide was whether a court can work out "sufficient compensation" for a woman from her husband's ancestral property in case of divorce which takes place on the grounds of "irretrievable breakdown of marriage".
The GoM, set up recently to decide on the Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill, was also asked to decide on whether a judge can exercise discretion in granting divorce if one of the partners does not move a second 'joint application' for divorce with mutual consent. But there is a view contrary to the proposal within the government. Sources said there is a view that by allowing courts the discretion to allow divorce would fail the very purpose of seeking it on the grounds of mutual consent.
They said if one of the parties refuses to move a joint application, then the other should be allowed to file for a divorce on other grounds than mutual consent. While the bill has a provision for share in a husband's self-acquired property, a new clause - 13 f - was discussed by the GoM headed by Defence Minister AK Antony. It says if the ancestral property cannot be divided, then the woman should get sufficient compensation by calculating husband's share in it. The amount of the compensation can be worked out by the court hearing the divorce case.
http://ibnlive.in.com/news/government-likely-to-discuss-goms-recommendations-on-marriage-laws/407171-3.html
The government is likely to consider on Wednesday the recommendations of a Group of Ministers (GoM) to make marriage laws more women friendly. One of the key issues the GoM was asked to decide was whether a court can work out "sufficient compensation" for a woman from her husband's ancestral property in case of divorce which takes place on the grounds of "irretrievable breakdown of marriage".
The GoM, set up recently to decide on the Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill, was also asked to decide on whether a judge can exercise discretion in granting divorce if one of the partners does not move a second 'joint application' for divorce with mutual consent. But there is a view contrary to the proposal within the government. Sources said there is a view that by allowing courts the discretion to allow divorce would fail the very purpose of seeking it on the grounds of mutual consent.
They said if one of the parties refuses to move a joint application, then the other should be allowed to file for a divorce on other grounds than mutual consent. While the bill has a provision for share in a husband's self-acquired property, a new clause - 13 f - was discussed by the GoM headed by Defence Minister AK Antony. It says if the ancestral property cannot be divided, then the woman should get sufficient compensation by calculating husband's share in it. The amount of the compensation can be worked out by the court hearing the divorce case.
http://ibnlive.in.com/news/government-likely-to-discuss-goms-recommendations-on-marriage-laws/407171-3.html
Wednesday, 10 July 2013
चार दिन प्रेमी संग बिता लौटी विवाहिता
चार दिन प्रेमी संग बिता लौटी विवाहिता
शक्ति नगर से चार दिन से गायब विवाहिता सोमवार को वापस घर लौट आई। उसकी मा ने थाने में शिकायत दे रखी थी कि वह अपने मोहल्ले के दीपक नामक युवक के साथ गई थी। इसके चलते युवक दीपक व उसकी कथित प्रेमिका खुद ही थाने पहुच गए। यहा उन्होंने बताया कि वे दोनों बालिग है और अपनी मर्जी से गए थे। इसके बाद पुलिस ने उन्हें कोर्ट में पेश गया। कोर्ट ने दोनों के बयान दर्ज कर लिए। इसके बाद पुलिस ने उन्हे छोड़ दिया। उन्हे एसडीएम बलजीत सिंह के समक्ष पेश किया गया था। एसडीएम ने कहा कि विवाहिता का मेडिकल कराया जाना चाहिए। इसके बाद पुलिस महिला को लेकर अस्पताल पहुची। यहा महिला ने चिकित्सा अधिकारी डॉ. हनुमान के समक्ष कहा कि वह अपनी मर्जी से गई थी। इसलिए किसी तरह का कोई मेडिकल नहीं कराना चाहती। उसका किसी पर कोई आरोप भी नहीं है। इसके बाद उन्हे दोबारा अदालत में पेश किया। पुलिस के मुताबिक महिला की करीब चार माह पहले शादी हुई थी। शादी के बाद से वह अपने पति के साथ ही रह रही थी। चार दिन पहले वह मायके आई थी। यहीं से वह दीपक नामक युवक के साथ घर से गायब हो गई। पीछे से उसकी मा ने थाने में शिकायत दर्ज करा दी। पुलिस उनकी तलाश कर रही थी कि सोमवार को दोनों खुद ही थाने पहुंच गए। महिला ने बताया कि वह दीपक के साथ ही रहना चाहती थी। लेकिन मा ने जबरन शादी कर दी। पिता का काफी समय पहले देहात हो चुका है। जाच अधिकारी सब इस्पेक्टर सीता राम ने बताया कि महिला का किसी पर कोई आरोप नहीं है। उसने अपनी मर्जी से जाने की बात स्वीकारी है। इसलिए उसके बयान दर्ज कर छोड़ दिया गया है। फिलहाल दोनों को उनके परिजनों के सुपुर्द किया गया है।
http://www.jagran.com/haryana/fatehabad-10486086.html
शक्ति नगर से चार दिन से गायब विवाहिता सोमवार को वापस घर लौट आई। उसकी मा ने थाने में शिकायत दे रखी थी कि वह अपने मोहल्ले के दीपक नामक युवक के साथ गई थी। इसके चलते युवक दीपक व उसकी कथित प्रेमिका खुद ही थाने पहुच गए। यहा उन्होंने बताया कि वे दोनों बालिग है और अपनी मर्जी से गए थे। इसके बाद पुलिस ने उन्हें कोर्ट में पेश गया। कोर्ट ने दोनों के बयान दर्ज कर लिए। इसके बाद पुलिस ने उन्हे छोड़ दिया। उन्हे एसडीएम बलजीत सिंह के समक्ष पेश किया गया था। एसडीएम ने कहा कि विवाहिता का मेडिकल कराया जाना चाहिए। इसके बाद पुलिस महिला को लेकर अस्पताल पहुची। यहा महिला ने चिकित्सा अधिकारी डॉ. हनुमान के समक्ष कहा कि वह अपनी मर्जी से गई थी। इसलिए किसी तरह का कोई मेडिकल नहीं कराना चाहती। उसका किसी पर कोई आरोप भी नहीं है। इसके बाद उन्हे दोबारा अदालत में पेश किया। पुलिस के मुताबिक महिला की करीब चार माह पहले शादी हुई थी। शादी के बाद से वह अपने पति के साथ ही रह रही थी। चार दिन पहले वह मायके आई थी। यहीं से वह दीपक नामक युवक के साथ घर से गायब हो गई। पीछे से उसकी मा ने थाने में शिकायत दर्ज करा दी। पुलिस उनकी तलाश कर रही थी कि सोमवार को दोनों खुद ही थाने पहुंच गए। महिला ने बताया कि वह दीपक के साथ ही रहना चाहती थी। लेकिन मा ने जबरन शादी कर दी। पिता का काफी समय पहले देहात हो चुका है। जाच अधिकारी सब इस्पेक्टर सीता राम ने बताया कि महिला का किसी पर कोई आरोप नहीं है। उसने अपनी मर्जी से जाने की बात स्वीकारी है। इसलिए उसके बयान दर्ज कर छोड़ दिया गया है। फिलहाल दोनों को उनके परिजनों के सुपुर्द किया गया है।
http://www.jagran.com/haryana/fatehabad-10486086.html
प्रेमी संग नहर में कूदी विवाहिता का शव मिला
प्रेमी संग नहर में कूदी विवाहिता का शव मिला
गोरखपुर के पास युवक संग नहर में कूदने वाली मीरपुर निवासी विवाहिता मंजू का शव बरामद हो गया है। बुधवार को उसका शव काजलहैड के पास मिला। पुलिस ने पोस्टमार्टम के बाद शव परिजनों को सौंप दिया। इस मामले में फिलहाल अग्रोहा थाना पुलिस कार्रवाई कर रही है।
मंजू का कथित प्रेमी गांव ढाणी माजरा निवासी संदीप अभी तक लापता है।
मृतका मंजू गाव नाढ़ोड़ी निवासी पृथ्वी सिंह नामक व्यक्ति से ब्याही हुई थी। मंजू काफी दिनों से अपने मायके मीरपुर गई हुई थी। बताते है रविवार 16 जून को गाव ढाणी माजरा निवासी संदीप ने मोबाईल कर मंजू को गाव गोरखपुर के पास बुला लिया। यहां दोनों एक साथ सिद्धमुख भाखड़ा नहर में कूद गए। जिस स्थान पर संदीप व मंजू नहर में कूदे थे उसके पास ही कुछ लोग भेड़ें चरा रहे थे व कुछ किसान भी वहा खड़े थे। इन लोगों ने देखा कि एक युवक-युवती प्लसर बाईक पर नहर के पुल के पास आए। उस वक्त दोनों उल्टिया कर रहे थे। देखते ही देखते युवती ने अपनी चुन्नी व चप्पल उतारकर नहर के किनारे रख दी व उसके बाद युवक-युवती ने नहर में छलाग लगा दी। नहर में कूदा संदीप तैरना जानता था, वह तैरकर बाहर आ गया और बाईक पर सवार होकर मौके से भाग निकला। इस मामले में मृतका के पति ने पुलिस को शिकायत देकर संदीप पर हत्या का आरोप भी लगाया था। अब मामले की जांच अग्रोहा पुलिस कर रही है।
http://www.jagran.com/haryana/fatehabad-10492101.html
गोरखपुर के पास युवक संग नहर में कूदने वाली मीरपुर निवासी विवाहिता मंजू का शव बरामद हो गया है। बुधवार को उसका शव काजलहैड के पास मिला। पुलिस ने पोस्टमार्टम के बाद शव परिजनों को सौंप दिया। इस मामले में फिलहाल अग्रोहा थाना पुलिस कार्रवाई कर रही है।
मंजू का कथित प्रेमी गांव ढाणी माजरा निवासी संदीप अभी तक लापता है।
मृतका मंजू गाव नाढ़ोड़ी निवासी पृथ्वी सिंह नामक व्यक्ति से ब्याही हुई थी। मंजू काफी दिनों से अपने मायके मीरपुर गई हुई थी। बताते है रविवार 16 जून को गाव ढाणी माजरा निवासी संदीप ने मोबाईल कर मंजू को गाव गोरखपुर के पास बुला लिया। यहां दोनों एक साथ सिद्धमुख भाखड़ा नहर में कूद गए। जिस स्थान पर संदीप व मंजू नहर में कूदे थे उसके पास ही कुछ लोग भेड़ें चरा रहे थे व कुछ किसान भी वहा खड़े थे। इन लोगों ने देखा कि एक युवक-युवती प्लसर बाईक पर नहर के पुल के पास आए। उस वक्त दोनों उल्टिया कर रहे थे। देखते ही देखते युवती ने अपनी चुन्नी व चप्पल उतारकर नहर के किनारे रख दी व उसके बाद युवक-युवती ने नहर में छलाग लगा दी। नहर में कूदा संदीप तैरना जानता था, वह तैरकर बाहर आ गया और बाईक पर सवार होकर मौके से भाग निकला। इस मामले में मृतका के पति ने पुलिस को शिकायत देकर संदीप पर हत्या का आरोप भी लगाया था। अब मामले की जांच अग्रोहा पुलिस कर रही है।
http://www.jagran.com/haryana/fatehabad-10492101.html
Friday, 5 July 2013
Male Victims of Domestic Abuse Continue to Suffer in Silence
Male Victims of Domestic Abuse Continue to Suffer in Silence
Last week, on the eve of becoming homeless as his house passed into its new owner’s hands, Earl Silverman of northeast Calgary hanged himself in his garage.
Silverman briefly hit the news a month ago, when he closed his Men’s Alternate Safe House (MASH), the only privately funded shelter for male victims of domestic violence in Canada, for lack of funds. For three years, MASH had temporarily housed about 20 men and a few children.
As I wrote in a March 27 column, “This story did not light up the switchboards, metaphorically speaking, of the media and government ministries.” The fact that men suffering from abuse now had exactly nowhere in Canada to turn for publicly funded shelter was the catalyst for a cavernous collective yawn — and exactly one letter to the Post editor, scolding men for their failure to become activists in their own behalf as women did.
The letter-writer had a point; men do tend to suffer in solitude rather than join forces to ask for help. As a result, abused are now where abused women were in the 1970s, before government swung into action to help. The problem of male abuse by their intimate partners has been “outed,” but there is no public system to deal with it.
So it would have been nice if somebody had written in to deplore the disparity in treatment between female and male victims of domestic abuse. For the silence on the letters page spoke volumes on the stubbornly persisting public perception that only women are victims of domestic violence, or that when men suffer abuse, they provoked it or deserve it.
The well-documented fact is that 25% of domestic violence is perpetrated by women against men who did not provoke it. Arrest statistics don’t reflect that reality, since men are routinely arrested in domestic disputes, no matter who provoked or did the most damage.
Explaining why he started MASH, Earl said: “When I went into the community looking for some support services [to deal with my wife’s abuse], I couldn’t find any. There were a lot for women, and the only programs for men were for anger management. As a victim, I was re-victimized by having these services telling me that I wasn’t a victim, but a perpetrator.”
Earl Silverman’s suicidal despair may have had some of its roots in personal psychological issues unconnected to a system that overtly excluded him. Warm and outgoing by nature, he smoked and drank too much. But then most suicides are due to a combination of internal and external factors. Some of the young girls who have recently committed suicide were known to be psychologically fragile; contributing factors like “slut-shaming” seem to be what pushed them over the edge. They have certainly had our full attention and sympathy.
The question is: would eliminating the contributing factors have permitted these girls – and Earl Silverman – to find life worth living? We believe so. We’re hell-bent on eliminating the contributing factors to those girls’ deaths, as well we should be. Male suicides vastly outnumber female suicides. We could and should also be looking at public policies that would prevent what we know to be contributing factors in the suicide of Earl Silverman and other desperate men before him.
According to a friend, “[Earl] believed very much in fairness and justice and he was just staggered, constantly, that …something so simple and so logical as gender rights and equality would be so impossible to access for so many people.” His four-page suicide note urged changes in the system. In other words, his suicide was in part an act of political martyrdom.
It’s an easy fix to honour Earl’s last wish: Acknowledge the reality that men suffer from their intimate partners’ violence almost as frequently as women do, and almost as consequentially. Offer funded shelter and counselling to both men and women who need it. And while we’re at it, offer funded anger management to women who need it — there are many — as well as to men. We will then see male suicide rates go down. It’s that simple. If we care.
Barbara Kay
National Post
bkay@videotron.ca
http://www.f4e.com.au/blog/2013/07/03/male-victims-of-domestic-abuse-continue-to-suffer-in-silence/
Not likely in my opinion. Because the whole concept of gender quality
in India is used by courts only when it benefits women in general and
not men.
Take the recent spate of rape cases being filed all over Indian where
women allege rape on men when a consensual relation between them breaks
down and marriage does not take place. In most cases, it is alleged
that the man and woman had consensual physical relations and that man
did not keep his promise of getting married to the woman. Police and
courts accept such cases, the media highlight them and Indian rape
statistics increase for no reason.
However, can a man also file a rape case against a woman if she decides to break a relationship after entering into a consensual physical relationship? Will the same Supreme Court then have applied the same gender equality note?
Now, let us come to more serious issue of domestic violence. It is a fact that over 65000 husbands are driven to suicide every year, compared to only 35000 wives. This is a statistical fact taken out of NCRB statistics and cited by various surveys and news reports.
While over 13 civil and criminal laws exist to protect wives from abusive husbands, the latter in India are not protected from domestic violence or matrimonial abuse from wives. Revisiting the Supreme Court’s approach of gender equality note all husbands must also be allowed to file domestic violence cases because the court would have allowed a wife to file the same if she had been abused.
The fundamental fact of the matter is that what’s bad for the goose is bad for the gander, but not in India where different standards are openly applied to the goose and the gander. Using words like "gender equality" when it comes to benefitting women and "positive discrimination" when it comes to denying access to laws and the legal system to abused men, the Indian Judicial system is only denigrating its status amongst its citizens and making a mockery of itself.
Our legal system should instead come clean and openly announce the different standards that it applies to men and women so that men are under no false impression that the courts would think with a gender equality note if they approach them with a prayer. So much for gender equality!
- See more at:
http://www.merinews.com/article/why-does-supreme-court-apply-gender-equality-only-one-way/15887535.shtml#sthash.g1kLEp6d.dpuf
Not likely in my opinion. Because the whole concept of gender quality
in India is used by courts only when it benefits women in general and
not men.
Take the recent spate of rape cases being filed all over Indian where
women allege rape on men when a consensual relation between them breaks
down and marriage does not take place. In most cases, it is alleged
that the man and woman had consensual physical relations and that man
did not keep his promise of getting married to the woman. Police and
courts accept such cases, the media highlight them and Indian rape
statistics increase for no reason.
However, can a man also file a rape case against a woman if she decides to break a relationship after entering into a consensual physical relationship? Will the same Supreme Court then have applied the same gender equality note?
Now, let us come to more serious issue of domestic violence. It is a fact that over 65000 husbands are driven to suicide every year, compared to only 35000 wives. This is a statistical fact taken out of NCRB statistics and cited by various surveys and news reports.
While over 13 civil and criminal laws exist to protect wives from abusive husbands, the latter in India are not protected from domestic violence or matrimonial abuse from wives. Revisiting the Supreme Court’s approach of gender equality note all husbands must also be allowed to file domestic violence cases because the court would have allowed a wife to file the same if she had been abused.
The fundamental fact of the matter is that what’s bad for the goose is bad for the gander, but not in India where different standards are openly applied to the goose and the gander. Using words like "gender equality" when it comes to benefitting women and "positive discrimination" when it comes to denying access to laws and the legal system to abused men, the Indian Judicial system is only denigrating its status amongst its citizens and making a mockery of itself.
Our legal system should instead come clean and openly announce the different standards that it applies to men and women so that men are under no false impression that the courts would think with a gender equality note if they approach them with a prayer. So much for gender equality!
- See more at:
http://www.merinews.com/article/why-does-supreme-court-apply-gender-equality-only-one-way/15887535.shtml#sthash.g1kLEp6d.dpuf
Not likely in my opinion. Because the whole concept of gender quality
in India is used by courts only when it benefits women in general and
not men.
Take the recent spate of rape cases being filed all over Indian where
women allege rape on men when a consensual relation between them breaks
down and marriage does not take place. In most cases, it is alleged
that the man and woman had consensual physical relations and that man
did not keep his promise of getting married to the woman. Police and
courts accept such cases, the media highlight them and Indian rape
statistics increase for no reason.
However, can a man also file a rape case against a woman if she decides to break a relationship after entering into a consensual physical relationship? Will the same Supreme Court then have applied the same gender equality note?
Now, let us come to more serious issue of domestic violence. It is a fact that over 65000 husbands are driven to suicide every year, compared to only 35000 wives. This is a statistical fact taken out of NCRB statistics and cited by various surveys and news reports.
While over 13 civil and criminal laws exist to protect wives from abusive husbands, the latter in India are not protected from domestic violence or matrimonial abuse from wives. Revisiting the Supreme Court’s approach of gender equality note all husbands must also be allowed to file domestic violence cases because the court would have allowed a wife to file the same if she had been abused.
The fundamental fact of the matter is that what’s bad for the goose is bad for the gander, but not in India where different standards are openly applied to the goose and the gander. Using words like "gender equality" when it comes to benefitting women and "positive discrimination" when it comes to denying access to laws and the legal system to abused men, the Indian Judicial system is only denigrating its status amongst its citizens and making a mockery of itself.
Our legal system should instead come clean and openly announce the different standards that it applies to men and women so that men are under no false impression that the courts would think with a gender equality note if they approach them with a prayer. So much for gender equality!
- See more at:
http://www.merinews.com/article/why-does-supreme-court-apply-gender-equality-only-one-way/15887535.shtml#sthash.g1kLEp6d.dpuf
Last week, on the eve of becoming homeless as his house passed into its new owner’s hands, Earl Silverman of northeast Calgary hanged himself in his garage.
Silverman briefly hit the news a month ago, when he closed his Men’s Alternate Safe House (MASH), the only privately funded shelter for male victims of domestic violence in Canada, for lack of funds. For three years, MASH had temporarily housed about 20 men and a few children.
As I wrote in a March 27 column, “This story did not light up the switchboards, metaphorically speaking, of the media and government ministries.” The fact that men suffering from abuse now had exactly nowhere in Canada to turn for publicly funded shelter was the catalyst for a cavernous collective yawn — and exactly one letter to the Post editor, scolding men for their failure to become activists in their own behalf as women did.
The letter-writer had a point; men do tend to suffer in solitude rather than join forces to ask for help. As a result, abused are now where abused women were in the 1970s, before government swung into action to help. The problem of male abuse by their intimate partners has been “outed,” but there is no public system to deal with it.
So it would have been nice if somebody had written in to deplore the disparity in treatment between female and male victims of domestic abuse. For the silence on the letters page spoke volumes on the stubbornly persisting public perception that only women are victims of domestic violence, or that when men suffer abuse, they provoked it or deserve it.
The well-documented fact is that 25% of domestic violence is perpetrated by women against men who did not provoke it. Arrest statistics don’t reflect that reality, since men are routinely arrested in domestic disputes, no matter who provoked or did the most damage.
Explaining why he started MASH, Earl said: “When I went into the community looking for some support services [to deal with my wife’s abuse], I couldn’t find any. There were a lot for women, and the only programs for men were for anger management. As a victim, I was re-victimized by having these services telling me that I wasn’t a victim, but a perpetrator.”
Earl Silverman’s suicidal despair may have had some of its roots in personal psychological issues unconnected to a system that overtly excluded him. Warm and outgoing by nature, he smoked and drank too much. But then most suicides are due to a combination of internal and external factors. Some of the young girls who have recently committed suicide were known to be psychologically fragile; contributing factors like “slut-shaming” seem to be what pushed them over the edge. They have certainly had our full attention and sympathy.
The question is: would eliminating the contributing factors have permitted these girls – and Earl Silverman – to find life worth living? We believe so. We’re hell-bent on eliminating the contributing factors to those girls’ deaths, as well we should be. Male suicides vastly outnumber female suicides. We could and should also be looking at public policies that would prevent what we know to be contributing factors in the suicide of Earl Silverman and other desperate men before him.
According to a friend, “[Earl] believed very much in fairness and justice and he was just staggered, constantly, that …something so simple and so logical as gender rights and equality would be so impossible to access for so many people.” His four-page suicide note urged changes in the system. In other words, his suicide was in part an act of political martyrdom.
It’s an easy fix to honour Earl’s last wish: Acknowledge the reality that men suffer from their intimate partners’ violence almost as frequently as women do, and almost as consequentially. Offer funded shelter and counselling to both men and women who need it. And while we’re at it, offer funded anger management to women who need it — there are many — as well as to men. We will then see male suicide rates go down. It’s that simple. If we care.
Barbara Kay
National Post
bkay@videotron.ca
http://www.f4e.com.au/blog/2013/07/03/male-victims-of-domestic-abuse-continue-to-suffer-in-silence/
he
Supreme Court recently applied the gender equality note when a husband
was seeking divorce. It asked if it would have granted divorce to a
woman from her husband, who on developing some mental disorder had
become completely dependent on her, if she promised a huge sum as
permanent alimony.
The Indian media hailed the judgment as another landmark citing
gender equality. The question that remains to be answered is: would the
Indian SC or any such court in India
apply the same gender equality note when a husband complains of
domestic abuse including emotional, financial or physical abuse at the
hands of the wife or female partner?
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However, can a man also file a rape case against a woman if she decides to break a relationship after entering into a consensual physical relationship? Will the same Supreme Court then have applied the same gender equality note?
Now, let us come to more serious issue of domestic violence. It is a fact that over 65000 husbands are driven to suicide every year, compared to only 35000 wives. This is a statistical fact taken out of NCRB statistics and cited by various surveys and news reports.
While over 13 civil and criminal laws exist to protect wives from abusive husbands, the latter in India are not protected from domestic violence or matrimonial abuse from wives. Revisiting the Supreme Court’s approach of gender equality note all husbands must also be allowed to file domestic violence cases because the court would have allowed a wife to file the same if she had been abused.
The fundamental fact of the matter is that what’s bad for the goose is bad for the gander, but not in India where different standards are openly applied to the goose and the gander. Using words like "gender equality" when it comes to benefitting women and "positive discrimination" when it comes to denying access to laws and the legal system to abused men, the Indian Judicial system is only denigrating its status amongst its citizens and making a mockery of itself.
Our legal system should instead come clean and openly announce the different standards that it applies to men and women so that men are under no false impression that the courts would think with a gender equality note if they approach them with a prayer. So much for gender equality!
he
Supreme Court recently applied the gender equality note when a husband
was seeking divorce. It asked if it would have granted divorce to a
woman from her husband, who on developing some mental disorder had
become completely dependent on her, if she promised a huge sum as
permanent alimony.
The Indian media hailed the judgment as another landmark citing
gender equality. The question that remains to be answered is: would the
Indian SC or any such court in India
apply the same gender equality note when a husband complains of
domestic abuse including emotional, financial or physical abuse at the
hands of the wife or female partner?
Advertisement
However, can a man also file a rape case against a woman if she decides to break a relationship after entering into a consensual physical relationship? Will the same Supreme Court then have applied the same gender equality note?
Now, let us come to more serious issue of domestic violence. It is a fact that over 65000 husbands are driven to suicide every year, compared to only 35000 wives. This is a statistical fact taken out of NCRB statistics and cited by various surveys and news reports.
While over 13 civil and criminal laws exist to protect wives from abusive husbands, the latter in India are not protected from domestic violence or matrimonial abuse from wives. Revisiting the Supreme Court’s approach of gender equality note all husbands must also be allowed to file domestic violence cases because the court would have allowed a wife to file the same if she had been abused.
The fundamental fact of the matter is that what’s bad for the goose is bad for the gander, but not in India where different standards are openly applied to the goose and the gander. Using words like "gender equality" when it comes to benefitting women and "positive discrimination" when it comes to denying access to laws and the legal system to abused men, the Indian Judicial system is only denigrating its status amongst its citizens and making a mockery of itself.
Our legal system should instead come clean and openly announce the different standards that it applies to men and women so that men are under no false impression that the courts would think with a gender equality note if they approach them with a prayer. So much for gender equality!
he
Supreme Court recently applied the gender equality note when a husband
was seeking divorce. It asked if it would have granted divorce to a
woman from her husband, who on developing some mental disorder had
become completely dependent on her, if she promised a huge sum as
permanent alimony.
The Indian media hailed the judgment as another landmark citing
gender equality. The question that remains to be answered is: would the
Indian SC or any such court in India
apply the same gender equality note when a husband complains of
domestic abuse including emotional, financial or physical abuse at the
hands of the wife or female partner?
Advertisement
However, can a man also file a rape case against a woman if she decides to break a relationship after entering into a consensual physical relationship? Will the same Supreme Court then have applied the same gender equality note?
Now, let us come to more serious issue of domestic violence. It is a fact that over 65000 husbands are driven to suicide every year, compared to only 35000 wives. This is a statistical fact taken out of NCRB statistics and cited by various surveys and news reports.
While over 13 civil and criminal laws exist to protect wives from abusive husbands, the latter in India are not protected from domestic violence or matrimonial abuse from wives. Revisiting the Supreme Court’s approach of gender equality note all husbands must also be allowed to file domestic violence cases because the court would have allowed a wife to file the same if she had been abused.
The fundamental fact of the matter is that what’s bad for the goose is bad for the gander, but not in India where different standards are openly applied to the goose and the gander. Using words like "gender equality" when it comes to benefitting women and "positive discrimination" when it comes to denying access to laws and the legal system to abused men, the Indian Judicial system is only denigrating its status amongst its citizens and making a mockery of itself.
Our legal system should instead come clean and openly announce the different standards that it applies to men and women so that men are under no false impression that the courts would think with a gender equality note if they approach them with a prayer. So much for gender equality!
Wednesday, 3 July 2013
मायके आई विवाहिता प्रेमी संग फरार
मायके आई विवाहिता प्रेमी संग फरार
महराजगंज, अप्र : कोतवाली क्षेत्र में मायके आई विवाहिता प्रेमी संग फरार हो गई। पति ने प्रेमी को नामजद करते पुलिस को तहरीर दी है।
कोतवाली क्षेत्र के पूरे मेहरबान सिंह मजरे ज्योना की 23 वर्षीय विवाहिता दो सप्ताह पूर्व अपनी ससुराल उन्नाव जिले के कर्दहा गांव से मायके आई थी। बीती 13 मई को वह बिना बताए कहीं चली गई। मायके वालों ने इसकी जानकारी ससुरालीजनों को दी। पति ने पत्नी की काफी खोजबीन की लेकिन उसका कुछ पता नहीं चला। जब उसे पत्नी का गांव के ही इजहार पुत्र इशहाक से प्रेम प्रसंग की जानकारी हुई तो उसने नामजद तहरीर कोतवाली में दी। पति ने बताया कि उसकी शादी तीन वर्ष पहले हुई थी। अब तक उसके कोई संतान नहीं है। उसका कहना है इजहार से उसका काफी दिनों से प्रेम प्रसंग चल रहा है। कोतवाली प्रभारी केआर वेदवान ने बताया कि तहरीर मिली है, जांच के बाद मामला दर्ज किया जाएगा।
http://www.jagran.com/uttar-pradesh/raebareli-10399998.html
महराजगंज, अप्र : कोतवाली क्षेत्र में मायके आई विवाहिता प्रेमी संग फरार हो गई। पति ने प्रेमी को नामजद करते पुलिस को तहरीर दी है।
कोतवाली क्षेत्र के पूरे मेहरबान सिंह मजरे ज्योना की 23 वर्षीय विवाहिता दो सप्ताह पूर्व अपनी ससुराल उन्नाव जिले के कर्दहा गांव से मायके आई थी। बीती 13 मई को वह बिना बताए कहीं चली गई। मायके वालों ने इसकी जानकारी ससुरालीजनों को दी। पति ने पत्नी की काफी खोजबीन की लेकिन उसका कुछ पता नहीं चला। जब उसे पत्नी का गांव के ही इजहार पुत्र इशहाक से प्रेम प्रसंग की जानकारी हुई तो उसने नामजद तहरीर कोतवाली में दी। पति ने बताया कि उसकी शादी तीन वर्ष पहले हुई थी। अब तक उसके कोई संतान नहीं है। उसका कहना है इजहार से उसका काफी दिनों से प्रेम प्रसंग चल रहा है। कोतवाली प्रभारी केआर वेदवान ने बताया कि तहरीर मिली है, जांच के बाद मामला दर्ज किया जाएगा।
http://www.jagran.com/uttar-pradesh/raebareli-10399998.html
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