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Thursday, 12 September 2013

‘Step to protect men from wives’ fake complaints not enough’

Centre's directive to states say no arrests be made without proper investigation

Taking cognisance of the increasing number of false complaints being filed under section 498A of the Indian Penal Code (IPC), the Central Government recently issued directives to the state governments not to make any immediate arrests but conduct thorough investigations before taking any action. However, family court lawyers and activists feel that unless women are punished for lodging false complaints, this directive would not help.

"Though the directive is welcome, unless the women are punished by law for filing false cases under Section 498A, its misuse cannot be stopped," said Mahesh Kalge, a representative of Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), who runs a helpline for men in distress caused by domestic disputes.

Mahesh (name changed), an IT professional from Chinchwad, had to spent a week in the lock-up after his wife filed a harassment complaint with the police.

"In most cases, the investigating officer immediately arrests the husband, mother-in-law and sister-in-law, as per the statement given by the wife. However, when the allegations prove false, the investigating officer is never held at fault. It is time the judiciary take this into account," said Mahesh.

"This directive, if implemented strictly, will surely put a tab on the misuse of this section. Of the total cases filed under this section in one year, 85 per cent turn out to be bogus," said advocate Shailaja Kelkar, matrimonial counselor who practiced in the family court for 20 years. There should be a provision in the law where husbands can sue their wives for making false allegations. Women take to filing such false complaints with an eye on compensation or husband's property, Kelkar observed.

In a letter to state chief secretaries, the Ministry of Home Affairs has asked the state governments to issue directives to the police not to arrest the husband and his relatives without checking the genuineness of the anti-dowry complaint.
http://www.indianexpress.com/news/-step-to-protect-men-from-wives--fake-complaints-not-enough-/542632/
Centre's directive to states say no arrests be made without proper investigation
Taking cognisance of the increasing number of false complaints being filed under section 498A of the Indian Penal Code (IPC), the Central Government recently issued directives to the state governments not to make any immediate arrests but conduct thorough investigations before taking any action. However, family court lawyers and activists feel that unless women are punished for lodging false complaints, this directive would not help.
"Though the directive is welcome, unless the women are punished by law for filing false cases under Section 498A, its misuse cannot be stopped," said Mahesh Kalge, a representative of Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), who runs a helpline for men in distress caused by domestic disputes.
Mahesh (name changed), an IT professional from Chinchwad, had to spent a week in the lock-up after his wife filed a harassment complaint with the police.
"In most cases, the investigating officer immediately arrests the husband, mother-in-law and sister-in-law, as per the statement given by the wife. However, when the allegations prove false, the investigating officer is never held at fault. It is time the judiciary take this into account," said Mahesh.
"This directive, if implemented strictly, will surely put a tab on the misuse of this section. Of the total cases filed under this section in one year, 85 per cent turn out to be bogus," said advocate Shailaja Kelkar, matrimonial counselor who practiced in the family court for 20 years. There should be a provision in the law where husbands can sue their wives for making false allegations. Women take to filing such false complaints with an eye on compensation or husband's property, Kelkar observed.
In a letter to state chief secretaries, the Ministry of Home Affairs has asked the state governments to issue directives to the police not to arrest the husband and his relatives without checking the genuineness of the anti-dowry complaint.
- See more at: http://www.indianexpress.com/news/-step-to-protect-men-from-wives--fake-complaints-not-enough-/542632/#sthash.P8aotY7I.dpuf
Centre's directive to states say no arrests be made without proper investigation
Taking cognisance of the increasing number of false complaints being filed under section 498A of the Indian Penal Code (IPC), the Central Government recently issued directives to the state governments not to make any immediate arrests but conduct thorough investigations before taking any action. However, family court lawyers and activists feel that unless women are punished for lodging false complaints, this directive would not help.
"Though the directive is welcome, unless the women are punished by law for filing false cases under Section 498A, its misuse cannot be stopped," said Mahesh Kalge, a representative of Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), who runs a helpline for men in distress caused by domestic disputes.
Mahesh (name changed), an IT professional from Chinchwad, had to spent a week in the lock-up after his wife filed a harassment complaint with the police.
"In most cases, the investigating officer immediately arrests the husband, mother-in-law and sister-in-law, as per the statement given by the wife. However, when the allegations prove false, the investigating officer is never held at fault. It is time the judiciary take this into account," said Mahesh.
"This directive, if implemented strictly, will surely put a tab on the misuse of this section. Of the total cases filed under this section in one year, 85 per cent turn out to be bogus," said advocate Shailaja Kelkar, matrimonial counselor who practiced in the family court for 20 years. There should be a provision in the law where husbands can sue their wives for making false allegations. Women take to filing such false complaints with an eye on compensation or husband's property, Kelkar observed.
In a letter to state chief secretaries, the Ministry of Home Affairs has asked the state governments to issue directives to the police not to arrest the husband and his relatives without checking the genuineness of the anti-dowry complaint.
- See more at: http://www.indianexpress.com/news/-step-to-protect-men-from-wives--fake-complaints-not-enough-/542632/#sthash.P8aotY7I.dpuf
 

नौकरी से निकाला तो की मालिक के बेटे की हत्या

नौकरी से निकाले जाने से नाराज एक युवती ने दिल्ली में मंगलवार रात प्रॉपर्टी डीलर के बेटे की चाकू मारकर हत्या कर दी। युवती ने उसकी पत्नी पर भी हमला किया।

नाकाम होने के बाद उसने खुद को चाकू मारकर खुदकुशी का प्रयास किया। उसे जख्मी हालत में दीनदयाल उपाध्याय अस्पताल में भर्ती कराया गया, जहां उसकी हालत नाजुक बनी हुई है।

पुलिस के अनुसार, सुशील गुप्ता सपरिवार अंबिका विहार में रहता है। उसके परिवार में पत्नी अनिता, बेटी स्वाति और बेटा वरुण (25) था। सुशील सुंदर विहार में प्रॉपर्टी का काम करता है।

मंगलवार रात अनिता अपने बेटे के साथ घर में मौजूद थी। इसी दौरान उसके पति के कार्यालय में कंप्यूटर ऑपरेटर का काम करने वाली आशा (25) उसके घर पर आई।

आशा अनिता से नौकरी से निकाले जाने और वेतन के रुपए नहीं दिए जाने पर नाराजगी जता रही थी। अनिता ने कार्यालय की बात कार्यालय में पति से करने की बात कही और उसे काफी समझाया।

कुछ देर बाद अनिता उसके लिए चाय बनाने के लिए रसोई में चली गई। इसी दौरान बेटे वरुण की चीख सुनकर वह पीछे मुड़ी। उसने आशा के हाथ में चाकू था और पास ही वरुण लहूलुहान अवस्था में पेट पकड़कर बैठा हुआ था।

'पूरे परिवार को खत्म कर देगी'
आशा ने कहा कि वह आज पूरे परिवार को खत्म कर देगी और अनिता पर चाकू से हमला कर दिया। इसी दौरान स्वाति आ गई और उसने आशा को पकड़ने का प्रयास किया। पकड़े जाने की डर से आशा ने अपने पेट में चाकू से दो वार कर लिए।

सूचना पर सुशील घर पहुंचा और दोनों को अस्पताल में भर्ती कराया, जहां उपचार के दौरान वरुण की देर रात मौत हो गई। आशा की हालत नाजुक बनी हुई है। उसे निजी अस्पताल से दीनदयाल उपाध्याय अस्पताल रेफर कर दिया गया है।

पुलिस अनिता की शिकायत पर हत्या, हत्या का प्रयास और खुदकुशी के प्रयास का मामला दर्ज कर जांच कर रही है। आशा को दो दिन पहले ही सुशील ने काम से निकाल दिया था।

http://www.amarujala.com/news/crime-bureau/woman-killed-her-employer-s-son-in-delhi/ 

Tuesday, 10 September 2013

Coimbatore woman files abuse case against husband working in California

COIMBATORE: A software engineering working in California has been booked for physically and mentally abusing his wife by Coimbatore city police on Saturday. The police have decided to send a lookout notice to all airports in the country to arrest the software engineer.
According to police, Reena Rose Magdalene (31), from Subbarayanpudur near Somanur on the outskirts of the city, lodged a complaint with all women police station, Ramanathapuram, on Saturday. She stated in her complaint that she had completed her Msc Mphil and got married to A Lourde Thangaraj (34) from Periyar Nagar at Puliyakulam in the city on May 16, 2010. Her family gave a dowry of 15 sovereigns of gold and Rs2lakh cash. Soon after the wedding, the couple left for California.

The trouble started when Thangaraj began to physically and mentally abuse his wife.
Unable to bear the torture, Reena returned to India and resumed living with her parents. After relatives from both sides advised the couple, Reena returned to California to give her marriage another try.
However, Thangaraj had taken some obscene pictures of his wife discretely and began to threaten her saying if she failed to please him, he would publish the pictures online. This forced Reena to return to her hometown again. Her parents-in-law Anthony Grouse and Josephine Fernad also demanded for additional dowry from her.
Reena lodged a complaint with all women police station, Ramanathapuram on Saturday. Police inspector D Sathi Anusuya registered a case against the software engineer and his parents under section 498 (A) (husband or relatives of husband of a woman subjecting her to cruelty), 506 (i) (criminal intimidation) and under section 4 of Tamil Nadu Prohibition of Women Harassment Act.
Based on a Madras high court order, a case has been registered by police. "We will a send lookout notice to all airports in the country to detain the software engineer when he arrives in India," said inspector Sathi Anusuya. She also added that the police would conduct a detailed inquiry in connection with the case.

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-09-09/coimbatore/41902427_1_software-engineer-women-police-station-coimbatore-woman

Saturday, 7 September 2013

Marriage law amendment bill 2010 and the Murder of Democracy

26th August 2013 is a day that will live in infamy for Indian democracy when the country witnessed the broad daylight murder of democracy and principles of natural justice on the very floors of Indian Parliament. This is the day when the proposed Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill 2010 was cleared by the Rajya Sabha even after the opposition from men’s rights groups and some members of the House. The shocking aspect of the whole debate was the Minister of Law and justice Shri Kapil SIbal made statements in support of this law, which were grossly misleading and downright incorrect. The minister in his desire to get this law passed was generous with misleading statements and very economical with the truth.
The ground reality &repercussions of the law are severe on husbands and their families.
1. Husbands will lose their hard-earned property (self-acquired, inherited or inheritable) if their marriage breaks.
2. Husbands will still face other false cases under Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act, Section 125 CrPC, etc. and get extorted further.
3. Husbands will lose your children to their estranged wife who will poison them against you and the Govt. would aid her in doing so.
4. Husbands will become bankrupt if their wife decides to leave you or you are unhappy in the marriage.
5. Husbands would have no right to appeal as now your extortion is codified in the law and power has been wrested with the insensitive and anti-male Indian judiciary.
The Govt. chose to brush aide the aforementioned concerns of men’s welfare groups giving a clear message that the Govt. in India is not interested to work in men’s favor to even an iota’s extent. It’s up to the men now to realize as to whether they should vote for such political parties or even pay tax to such a Govt.
Some of  the arguments that were used by Honourable Minister of Law and Justice, Shri Kapil Sibal to help build a case for this law were grossly misleading and totally inaccurate . His statements and our counters are as below.
1. India is a patriarchal society; hence laws must be pro-women.

This is a big myth which is conveniently used to pass any anti-male law. If the society was indeed patriarchal, then in that case, the laws would have protected a man’s right. Why would a patriarchal society even bother about women and pass so many anti-male laws just to appease women? Actually Indian society has never been patriarchal. Life has always been tougher for men compared to women. Men have always been expected to take more pains and make more sacrifices compared to women and when men try to speak about their rights, their own fellow men work against them and suppress them. It is just a convenient argument to support anti-male laws so that men can be continuously harassed and tortured in order to make them work for the betterment of the society.
2. World over 2% of assets are owned by women, so since 98% of property is owned by 50% of the population i.e. men, hence women must get free property at the cost of men.
This is another grossly incorrect statement propagated by feminists and is not true because till date no authentic data source has been traced to, which scientifically proves the contention and it’s virtually impossible to do so as no one has access to this level of global data. And any amount of sample study done won’t suffice because no statistical model can simulate data for the entire globe with dynamics so varying and so complex. Secondly, even if we hypothetically assume that the contention is true, even then, men own those assets by sheer virtue of their grit, determination and hard work. No law was ever framed to have men a free run on properties by virtue of their relationship status that would enrich themselves. Then, why do we want to enrich women by robbing things off men? And such a mathematically weak argument coming from an eminent lawyer and a graduate from Harvard Law School is equally shamming for India.
3. This law is gender-neutral as both husband and wife can apply for divorce.
This a grossly misleading and untrue statement When it comes to property division, only husband’s property will be considered and even if wife owns property she can keep it, while claim a share in husband’s property.
4. We are only considering post-marital property but will take into account inherited and inheritable property.
This is a big grossly misleading statement. SIFF has seen the draft of the bill, which clearly mentions that any property owned by the husband at the time of divorce, whether it is inherited, inheritable or self-acquired, shall be considered for division. However, our learned law minster chose to mislead and said we are talking of only post marital property, however, inherited and inheritable property shall be taken into account while deciding the case. Does this mean this was deliberate attempt at misleading the members of the parliament to get this bill passed ?
Money and Property Transactions in Courts will lead to massive corruption and extortion. Lawyers have something to be happy about this IRBM law. But, the common man will suffer very badly. We have to wake up to the new reality that most men are losing faith on Indian Family court system and judiciary.
Leaving the whole issue to Judiciary is not good idea. There may be some good judges, but that does not mean enoromous powers and distrition of wresting someone’s property be vested with lower judiciary. Most poor people will lose their property running around courts for years and paying lawyer fees.
We will see lawyers welcoming laws that give more and more power to law enforcement systems, because they are bound to gain a lot from people’s misery. When Govt planned to amend Criminal Procedure Code to reduce arrests under 498a to stop its misuse, lawyers protested against this move claiming they will not be able to make big money from bail fees from men and their families.
Rajya Sabha member Pyarimohan Mahapatra said during that debate that according to Transparency International 36% of Indian Judiciary is corrupt. Now, the same corrupt Judiciary will decide how to divide the property of husband and his parents to give to  the wife.
Law Minister Kapil Sibal has nothing to say about forcing parents to give a share of their property to daughters, when people are not following this law. Yet, he is interested in giving someone’s property to daughter-in-law, if she decides get divorced for their son. In fact, their son can not even oppose the divorce, that she files.
Kapil Sibal has made the women’s empowerment into a zero sum win lose game. He believes if women have to gain, men have to lose badly. This will not auger well for Indian society on a long run.
We hereby most respectfully demand that the marriage law amendment bill not be introduced in Loksabha in this form and that he Honourable Minister of Law and justice call for an open debate on the pros and cons of this law and clarify the reasons why he chose to be generous with misleading statements and so economical with the truth.

http://www.theindiapost.com/articles/marriage-law-amendment-bill-2010-murder-democracy?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+theindiapost%2FwkLb+%28The+India+Post%29 

Sunday, 1 September 2013

Ghaziabad: Wife kills husband over drinking habits

What will happen if Husband kills wife bcoz she has drinking habits will law take it so smoothly, Domestic violence is it happening on Men or Women?

A 48-year-old woman allegedly bludgeoned her husband to death after she had a heated argument with him at their residence in the Rampuri area of Ghaziabad.
Police said Shanta Devi told them that her husband Sriram Sharma (54), a businessman, was an alcoholic and frequently fought with her and assaulted her. Shanta has been arrested for his murder.
Police said the couple lived with their daughter, who is an MBA student in Ghaziabad. On Tuesday, Sriram came home drunk and fought with his wife over a trivial matter, police said.
"The two had been having arguments for a while. Sriram had a transport business, which wasn't doing very well. As a result, the family's finances were suffering and it's possible that Sriram had taken to drinking because of this," Ranvijay Singh, Ghaziabad Deputy Superintendent Police, said.
Police said Sriram would often assault his wife while he was in an inebriated state. After her arrest, Shanta told police that the constant abuse — both physical and mental — had driven her to the murder.
Police said when the daughter saw her parents fighting, she tried to intervene and was told by her mother to go to the next room. "Following this, Shanta hit him on the head with a hammer. Death was almost instantaneous. After killing him, she covered him with a blanket and went off to sleep in the next room," Singh said.
Police said the body was discovered by the daughter on Friday morning, after which she informed the police.
This is the second such incident in National Capital Region in the last two days. On Thursday, an elderly woman was bludgeoned to death by unknown assailants inside her Malviya Nagar residence.

 http://www.indianexpress.com/news/ghaziabad-wife-kills-husband-over-drinking-habits/1162564/?SocialMedia 

Lawyer felicitated for contribution in cause of men

ALLAHABAD: A High Court lawyer Arvind Kumar Pandey was felicitated by a section of lawyers for receiving an award at fifth National Men's Rights Conference held in Nagpur recently, for outstanding contribution in championing the cause of men in national and International arena, during a programme organized at Indian Coffee House on Saturday.

Addressing the lawyers, Arivind Kumar Pandey said, "Biased criminal laws have spoiled the lives of many men charged under the Dowry Act. The laws like Domestic Violence Act, IPC 498 a, and Maintenance Act, to name a few are heavily tilted in favour of women and have done more harm than producing good effects."

The Men's Rights National conference, held at Pench Tiger Reserve in Nagpur was attended by more than 150 men's rights activists, who represented 40,000 activists spread across India and other parts of the globe.

This year's national conference was held under the aegis of Nagpur Chapter of Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), now being run by Rajesh Vakharia. Few prominent International Men's Rights Associations like Marital Justice from United Kingdom and INSAAF from USA besides Men's Rights activists from Germany, Singapore, Japan, Australia, South Africa, Middle East, Japan and Russia also attended the conference.

Informing about the resolutions passed at fifth Men's Rights conference Arvind Kumar Pandey, who attended the conference as a writer and blogger said, "The first resolution was aimed at formation of Men's Welfare Ministry while the next resolution aimed at reducing the number of men involved in hazardous professions and another important resolution dealt with creation of gender-neutral treatment in legal aspects. Recognition of the rights of fathers, making shared parenting necessary in wake of separation was another major demand made on the occasion. The activists were unanimous in rejecting the highly biased Marriage Law Amendment Bill, 2010, and demanded its roll back. Lastly, the need to make huge investment in areas of Men's health was deeply felt."

The felicitation ceremony at Coffee House, Allahabad, was attended by advocates including Neeraj Shukla, Sampanna Kumar Srivastava, Ashish Nigam, Satyadhar Dubey, Arvind Kushwaha, Pintu Jaiswal, Shubhranshu Pandey, Arun Prakash Srivastava, Mohit Kesarwani and few others.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/allahabad/Lawyer-felicitated-for-contribution-in-cause-of-men/articleshow/22197623.cms 

Wednesday, 28 August 2013

पिटाई? ओमपुरी ने बीवी पर ही लगा दिए हजार आरोप

मुंबई।। पत्नी को डंडे से पीटने के आरोप में पुलिस द्वारा भगोड़ा साबित किए गए जाने-माने ऐक्टर ओम पुरी का कहना है कि उनके घर में कोई डंडा है ही नहीं। उन्होंने अपने ऊपर लगे घरेलू हिंसा के आरोप को नकारते हुए कहा कि घर में एकमात्र बांस की सजावटी छड़ी है जिसे खुद उनकी पत्नी खरीदकर लाई थीं और इसे भी वह फरेंसिक जांच के लिए भेजने को तैयार हैं।

टीओआई से खास बातचीत में उन्होंने कहा, 'वह कहती हैं कि मैंने उन्हें सुबह 9:30 पर पीटा.. अगर ऐसा है तो वह पुलिस के पास शाम 4:30 बजे रपट लिखाने क्यों पहुंचीं.. आखिर सात घंटे वह किस बात का इतंजार कर रही थीं?' उन्होंने कहा कि छह हफ्ते पहले भी नंदिता उन पर और उनकी पूर्व पत्नी सीमा पर उनके बेटे को किडनैप करने की कोशिश का आरोप लगा चुकी हैं। जबकि, अगले ही दिन वह अपनी बात से पलट गईं और कहा कि उन्हें शक है कि हम ऐसा कर सकते हैं। ओम पुरी ने कहा, 'इस घटना से उनकी मानसिक हालत बयां होती है।'

ओम पुरी ने नंदिता की मानसिक हालत पर ही सवालिया निशान लगा दिया। पूरे मामले पर उनका कहना था, 'जिस समय कहासुनी हुई, उस समय नंदिता ने मेरा कॉलर पकड़ा और मुझे गालियां दीं। मैंने शांत रहने की कोशिश की और मैं घर से बाहर जाने लगा। लेकिन, उसने मेरा रास्ता रोक लिया और जब मैंने जबरदस्ती निकलने की कोशिश की तो उन्होंने कहना शुरू कर दिया कि मैं उनपर हमला कर रहा हूं।'

पत्नी नंदिता की पुलिस शिकायत पर ओम पुरी अग्रिम जमानत की कोशिश कर रहे हैं। ओम पुरी का कहना है कि नंदिता को वह घर और बेटे के लिए अच्छी खासी रकम देते हैं। लेकिन नंदिता काफी खर्चीली किस्म की हैं जबकि वह ग्रामीण परिवेश में पले-बढ़े हैं। बकौल ओम पुरी, 'नंदिता चाहती हैं कि वह आजीवन मिसेज ओम पुरी कहलाएं इसलिए वह तलाक भी नहीं ले रही हैं। साथ ही उन्हें अपने हाथ से वह रकम निकल जाने का भी डर है जो मैं उन्हें देता हूं।' उन्होंने नंदिता के इस दावे को भी खारिज कर दिया कि वह घर के रखरखाव के लिए पैसे नहीं देते हैं। उन्होंने कहा, 'वह घर के सभी तरह के बिल चुकाते हैं और तीन फ्लैट्स की हमारी जॉइंट ओनरशिप है। 'लेकिन, नंदिता को अपने खर्चों पर लगाम लगानी आती ही नहीं।'

सवालों के जवाब में ओम पुरी ने यह भी कहा कि वह नंदिता से तलाक के बाद अपनी पहली पत्नी के साथ रहना पसंद करेंगे।

ओम पुरी के शब्दों में: क्या हुआ था उस दिन?

ओम पुरी का कहना है कि राखी वाले दिन नंदिता ने उनसे 10 हजार रुपए मांगे। नंदिता यह रकम उन 10 लड़कियों को देना चाहती थी जिसने उनके बेटे ईशान को राखी बांधी थी। ओम पुरी के अनुसार, जब वह मांगे हुए पैसे दे चुके तो कुछ देर बाद फिर से नंदिता ने उनसे 3 हजार रुपए मांगे। नंदिता ने 3 हजार रुपए का मोबाइल घर की नौकरानी को दे दिया था क्योंकि नौकरानी ने भी ईशान को राखी बांधी थी। इस रकम को लेकर दोनों में कहासुनी हो गई और बकौल ओम पुरी, उन्हें अगले दिन पता चला कि उनके खिलाफ घरेलू हिंसा का केस दर्ज करवा दिया गया है।

पुलिस के अनुसार: क्या हुआ था उस दिन?

पुलिस का कहना है कि मियां-बीवी के बीच अंधेरी के वर्सोवा इलाके में सेवेन बंगलोज स्थित त्रुशिल बिल्डिंग में अपने फ्लैट के रखरखाव को लेकर कहासुनी शुरू हुई। उसके बाद नाराज ऐक्टर ने कथित तौर पर गुरुवार को रात नौ बजे के करीब छड़ी से अपनी पत्नी नंदिता की पिटाई की।

http://m.nbt.in/text/details.php?storyid=22120224&section=top-news 

Tuesday, 27 August 2013

Businessman kills self, in-laws booked

GURGAON: A 35-year-old businessman committed suicide here after accusing his wife and her parents of harassing him, police said on Tuesday. Six people from his wife's family were charged with abetment to suicide.

Amit Garg, a resident of Mandi Govindgarh in Punjab's Fatehgarh Sahib district, took poison and died here on Monday.

The coal businessman, who got married in February this year, had come to Gurgaon to meet his maternal uncle.

"Amit consumed poison at his uncle's house in Kendriya Vihar. He was rushed to a hospital and died during treatment," police official Pradeep Singh told IANS.

"The deceased left a suicide note blaming his wife and her parents for his extreme step," Singh said.

"I was badly harassed by my wife and his family. I have no other option but to end my life," the suicide note read. 
 http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/gurgaon/Businessman-kills-self-in-laws-booked/articleshow/22098937.cms 

Thursday, 22 August 2013

पुरुषहो, तुमच्यासाठी...

म. टा. प्रतिनिधी, नागपूर

पुरुष म्हणजे कुटुंबाची भिंत... त्याच्याशिवाय चांगल्या समाजाची कल्पनाच करवत नाही. असा हा पुरुष आज अडचणीत आहे. काही मोजक्या पुरुषांच्या एखाद्या कृत्याचे खापर अख्ख्या पुरुषजातीवर फोडले जाते. खरेतर, त्याच्यावरच अनेकदा अन्याय होतो. खोट्या गुन्ह्यांमध्ये तोच टार्गेट होतो. त्याचे ना कुणी ऐकत ना त्याच्या मदतीला जात. पुरुषांच्या याच अंतरंगाचा वेध घेण्यासाठी पहिल्यांदाच सेव्ह इंडियन फॅमिली फाउंडेशनतर्फे (सिफ) नागपूर विभागात पुरुष परिषद घेण्यात आली. पुरुषांच्या विविध समस्यांचा उहापोह येथे झाला. फाउंडेशनतर्फे पेंच येथे हे ५ वे पुरुष हक्क राष्ट्रीय अधिवेशन झाले. संपूर्ण भारतामधून ४० हजार कार्यकर्त्यांचे प्रतिनिधित्व करणारे शेकडो मेन्स राइट्स कार्यकर्ते या अधिवेशनासाठी जमले होते.

...तर स्वातंत्र्यदिन मानणार नाही

सरकारकडून पुरुषाला हीन वागणूक मिळते. त्याच्या भावना कधीच जाणून घेतल्या जात नाहीत. केवळ महिलांच्याच वाट्याला सहानुभूती येते. सरकार, न्यायालय केवळ महिलांचीच बाजू ऐकते. पुरुषाला तर बोलण्याचा अधिकारच नाही. चहूबाजूंनी पुरुषांची मुस्कटदाबी होते. अनेकदा महिलांकडून त्यांच्या बाजूने असलेल्या कायद्यांचा गैरवापर केला जातो. केवळ वचपा म्हणून तर कधी काही स्वार्थ साधण्यासाठी पुरुषांवर खोटे गुन्हे दाखल करण्यात येतात. मग पुरुष स्वतंत्र कसा, असा सवाल अधिवेशनात उपस्थित करण्यात आला. सरकारने पुरुषांच्या बाजूने विचार न केल्यास स्वातंत्र्यदिन साजरा का करायचा, असा सवालही उपस्थित करण्यात आला.

संशोधनाची गरज

सध्या पुरुषांसाठी भारतामध्ये पुरुष हक्क, पुरुषांच्या मानसिक व शारीरिक समस्या या विषयावर कुठेही कसलाही संशोधन किंवा शैक्षणिक आभ्यासक्रम अस्तित्वात नाही. असशा संशोधन किंवा शैक्षणिक अभ्यासक्रमाची नितांत गरज असल्याचे मत ' सिफ ' ने अधिवेशनात मांडले. अशा अभ्यासक्रमामुळे पुरुषत्वाची जाणीव लोकांपर्यंत पोहाचेल ज्यामुळे समाजात पुरुषांला चांगले जीवन जगता येईल, व चांगला समाज घडेल, असे मत व्यक्त करण्यात आले.

हाच खरा भेदाभेद

समाजातील गुन्हे आणि समस्यांसाठी केवळ पुरुषांनाच जबाबदार व गृहित धरण्यात येते. अनेक घटनांत तर महिलांनी पुरुषांपेक्षा कितीतरी गंभीर गुन्हे केले आहेत. ते कधीच प्रकाशात येत नाहीत. इथे मग ' समानता ' कुठे गेली? जर समाज पुरुषाला मानसन्मान देऊ शकत नसेल, तर त्या समाजाने पुरुषांकडून कुठलीच अपेक्षा करून नये. त्याला शिक्षा करण्याचा किंवा त्याला दोष देण्याचाही अधिकार नाही, असे स्पष्ट मत ' सिफ ' चे मध्य भारत अध्यक्ष राजेश वखारिया व अन्य मान्यवरांनी व्यक्त केले. अधिवेशनादरम्यान ३० सत्रांत पुरुषांच्या विविध समस्यांवर विचारमंथन झाले.

असे हे ठराव

- पुरुषाला शांततामय जीवन जगण्याचा अधिकार आहे.
- पुरुषाला कायदेशीर रूपात निःपक्ष व समान अधिकार मिळावेत, जे लिंगभेदरहित असावेत.
- प्रोस्टेट कॅन्सर, पार्किन्सन्स, हृदयविकार आदी आजारांपासून त्यांना रोखण्याकरिता पुरेशी आर्थिक गुंतवणूक करण्याची गरज आहे.
- पुरुषांबद्दलचे पूर्वग्रह दूर व्हावेत. त्यासाठी पुरुष कल्याण मंत्रालयाची स्थापना करण्यात यावी.
- फादर्स राइट्सचे रक्षण करून शेअर पॅरेंटिंगला मान्यता देण्यात यावी.
- संसदेसमोर येऊ घातलेला हिंदू विवाह संशोधन कायदा संमत न करता खारिज करावा. 


http://maharashtratimes.indiatimes.com/maharashtra/nagpur-vidarbha/--/articleshow/21958614.cms 

Tuesday, 20 August 2013

Tamil Nadu tops country in cases of domestic violence

Tamil Nadu tops country in cases of domestic violence

CHENNAI: Disturbing statistics released by the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) show that domestic violence is much more prevalent in Tamil Nadu than any other state in the country.
The NCRB data shows the state registered 3,838 cases of domestic violence in 2012 — or 84% of all complaints (4,567) of domestic violence recorded across the country.

Tamil Nadu recorded the most cases of domestic violence in the country, 3,983, last year too, a finding cited by minister for women and child development Krishna Tirath on August 14.
Experts offer several reasons for the high numbers in the state. These include greater awareness about the law in Tamil Nadu and due to an increase in education among women. Police officers, however, say tolerance levels are plunging among young couples, and this has led to a spurt in complaints.
Most complainants are women from middle-class and upper middle-class families.
The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act was enacted by the Union government in 2005 to protect women from violence at home.

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-08-19/india/41424743_1_domestic-violence-act-tamil-nadu-ncrb 

Thursday, 15 August 2013

Domestic violence on Senior Citizens : Kanpur


husbands harassed by wife


Harassed hubbies protest clauses in marriage law bill


498a misuse -3


lawful steps


Domestic violence affects men too


Tables turn: Men harassed

Tables turn: Men harassed

In 2011, when Ashish (name changed) landed a high-paying government job, his parents were on cloud nine. Little did they know what the future had in store for him: Hikes and promotions being denied because of a 40-year-old divorcee. A married man, Ashish initially could not understand why his boss would often invite him home for dinner, call him to her cabin or ask how she looked?
“It was when she started abusing me in public did I realise that she was angry as I had refused her overtures. She made my life miserable after that. I was loaded with work. And when the time came for hikes and promotions, I was given a bad rating. My hard work turned to dust,” he lamented. Talking to the H R department or other authorities yielded no results. “People would laugh at me. Men being harassed at work places is unheard of. Many presume that a man would actually enjoy it. I had to quit my job when all options were closed,” he adds.
The Ministry of Women and Child Development, in order to implement the Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace (Prevention, Prohibition and Redressal) Act 2013, which came into being in February, defined some finer details. These state that sexual harassment at a workplace may lead to termination of service of the accused, withholding of promotions and increments, and payment of reasonable compensation to the complainant. However, the Act only provides for aggrieved women, although the offense itself is gender neutral.
“The government is failing to recognise that sexual harassment is not a crime of passion, but a crime acted out to show dominance. In many cases, the aggressor may even be of the same sex,” explains Arnab Ganguly, a member of INSAAF (Indian Social Awareness and Activism Forum), an international NGO specialising in gender and social research, with branches in the United States and India. “The Act, however, does include a provision on “misuse” of the legislation, but it’s a very watered down version. The fine against people who misuse this Act is only `500 or 5 per cent of the aggressor’s salary, which doesn’t really act as a very serious deterrent to perpetrators,” informs Arnab.
The Save Indian Family Foundation along with INSAAF have tirelessly campaigned against the bill, so as to make it gender neutral. The fact that in India the definition of sexual assault incorporates men but the definition of sexual harassment refuses to consider men as victims seems preposterous, especially in the light of the research conducted by Synovate, a market research firm, across six Indian cities. The research states that in Bangalore alone, half of those who confessed to being sexually harassed at work had been harassed by women. Only 32 per cent said they were harassed by male colleagues.
“Although the new Act doesn’t provide for men as victims, most of the internal committees set up by companies to investigate sexual harassment are gender neutral. I usually sit in on many of these meetings as an external adviser and a lot of these cases have been filed by men as well. Companies now are being very open to issues faced by men at the workplace and take them very seriously,” says Kanti Joshi, an advocate who works with SASHA ( Support against Sexual Harassment), the consultancy arm of the NGO, IDEA (Integrated Developmental Education Academy) established to raise awareness and provide support services against sexual harassment.
Mohit Sharma (name changed), a senior architect who was working with a prominent design firm in the city, was fired unceremoniously because of allegations raised against him by a junior designer. “She wanted me to recommend her for a senior position when she clearly wasn’t ready. She flirted excessively and asked me to accompany her on coffee dates and when I didn’t comply she immediately complained to the HR, saying I was mistreating her and also alleged that I had made unwelcome advances towards her, when it was the other way around,” rues Mohit. His complaints simply echoed up the chain of command and were ignored in favour of the woman’s allegations, and after three months of fervent discussions back and forth, he was asked to leave the firm.
Atit Rajpara, president, Men’s Rights Association said that he gets more than 40 calls a month by men recalling horrifying incidents of sexual harassment at workplace.
Recalling a recent case, Rajpara said,” Shashi (name changed), an MNC employee was continuously harassed by his colleague, who wanted to marry him. When he stopped responding to her calls or messages, she landed at his doorstep and created a big scene.” Frustrated by this, Shashi filed a formal complaint with the HR. The woman was let off after a light warning but the harassment continued. She even blackmailed him that if he complained again, she would file a case against him for harassment. Despite repeated complaints, the woman continues to work with the company but Shashi was forced put in his papers. Rajpara added that in most cases men are mocked at when they talk about harassment. He said, “Sexual harassment should not be based on gender. It can happen to anyone, anytime. That’s why men never get justice.”
Women often misuse their rights and blame people at work places to get their way. In 2012, Shrishti Saxena used the same tactics. Being handed too much work by her boss, she decided to teach him a ‘lesson’. Instead of discussing the issue with him, she approached the HR and filed a sexual harassment complaint against him. Serious action was taken against the manager and Shrishti sighed a breath of relief.
Virag Dhulia, head of gender studies, Confidare India, a Bangalore-based research centre said that he gets more than three calls a month by men who have been harassed at work. “Gone are those days when offices were male dominated. These days a lot of women are handling top positions,” he said.
The centre has received calls on cases where women have tried to make advances towards their junior or colleague, asked them to stay back late at work,  threatened higher work burden and used lewd comments or abusive language. “The worst part is that companies don’t take these complaints seriously. The attitude is very insensitive towards men,” he said. Confidare runs a helpline, 9008302822, for those who are victims of sexual harassment.
 
 
http://newindianexpress.com/cities/bangalore/Tables-turn-Men-harassed/2013/08/14/article1732962.ece 

तुटणारी कुटुंबे वाचवा...

तुटणारी कुटुंबे वाचवा...

कौटुंबिक हिंसाचारासारख्या एकतर्फी कायद्यामुळे अनेक कुटुंबे तुटत आहेत. हे कायदे बदलण्यासाठी एनजीओंसह नागरिकांनीही पुढे यावे, असे आवाहन करीत केरळमधील चार युवक सायकलने भारतभ्रमणासाठी निघाले. सोमवारी ते नागपुरात दाखल झाले. 'सेव्ह इंडियन फॅमिली'सह 'सेव्ह एनर्जी', 'स्टे हेल्दी' असाही नारा ते देत आहेत.

पुरुषावकासा समरक्षणा समितीचे हे युवक आहेत. केरळातील त्रिचूर येथून २८ जुलै रोजी ते सायकलने निघाले. उत्तर भारतमार्गे ते जम्मू-काश्मिरात लद्दाखमध्ये पोहचतील. ५५ दिवसांचा त्यांचा हा प्रवास आहे. सोमवारी त्यांनी दीक्षाभूमीला भेट दिली. या रॅलीत पी. आर. गोकुल हे सेव्ह इंडियन फॅमिली, सी. डी. फ्रान्सिस सेव्ह एनर्जी तर लिओ जोसेफ व शर्पिन पी. टी. स्टे हेल्दी असा नारा देत आहेत.

कौटुंबिक हिंसाचार, हुंडाबळीचा ४९८ (अ) हे कायदे फक्त महिलांच्या बाजूने आहेत. त्यांचा अनेकदा गैरवापर होताना दिसतो. त्यात पती व त्याच्या कुटुंबीयांना त्रास सोसावा लागतो. या कायद्यात बदल करावेत, अशी मागणी या रॅलीतून करण्यात येणार आहे. तसेच, इतर एनजीओंनीही त्यासाठी पुढाकार घ्यावा, असे आवाहन करण्यात येणार आहे. 


http://maharashtratimes.indiatimes.com/articleshow/21809516.cms?prtpage=1 

Monday, 5 August 2013

Safe house for battered men

Safe house for battered men

India’s first domestic violence shelter for men opens its doors in Bangalore. Here’s one harassed husband’s story from inside the shelter. Francis Steven Dokka reports

For three months, a barely-furnished two-bedroom apartment on Bannerghatta Main Road was "heaven" for Prithvi (31). The apartment is a good advert for 'bare and minimum'--bean bags and plastic chairs in the living room; mats and bedsheets for bedding and a kitchen that has nothing more than essentials --a fridge, gas stove, some plates and glasses, and filtered water cans. The place is bereft of anything that usually makes a cold house a warm home. But for many harassed husbands this has been 'heaven' when their own homes turned hellish. Welcome to India's first domestic violence shelter for men.
 
The shelter was started on April 19 this year by Confidare Consultancy, a Bangalore-based men’s rights organisation founded by techies Anil Kumar, Virag Dhulia, Pandurang Katti and Mithun Kumar. These names are well-known in India’s men’s rights movement. They have made representations before the Indian Parliament and the US Senate. The safe haven for men operates out of an apartment owned by one of the founders and is an offshoot of the Men's Rights Community Center run by Confidare in Koramangala. Anil says, “Actually, the defining moment to start the shelter came many years ago when we started helplines for men facing domestic violence. The domestic violence shelter was just a logical extension of the helplines. Abused men are often coached by us to leave the abusive spaces (their homes) and go to paying guest or shared accommodations. Sometimes, we temporarily accommodate these abused men in our own houses for a few days. Declaring a complete house as a domestic violence shelter became the next logical step. It is not natural for men to run away from homes if they face abuse, because somehow society considers it unmanly, if a man runs away. Please note, we do not advise men to file for divorce. We suggest that they move to some other location to get some peace and recover.”
 
 
How Prithvi landed in the shelter is part of a bigger marital story — similar to ones being played out across India. Prithvi, a native of Hyderabad, was working at an IT firm in Bangalore, when he married a BTech graduate from West Godavari district in Andhra Pradesh four years ago. Soon, their marriage hit rough weather. Prithvi says, “My wife was treating me like an ATM. She began to frequently make outrageous demands that I buy her jewellery, take her to restaurants and movies. She didn’t understand that a family cannot afford to splurge all the time. When I didn’t meet her demands, she began complaining to her parents.” 
 
“Before we tied the knot, she promised to work after marriage to meet family expenses as Bangalore is a costly city. But after marriage, she did a U-turn. She refused to work. She began to taunt me with 'Can’t you feed your wife? Do you want your wife to earn and feed you?' queries. She wanted to stay at home and enjoy life. Another major disagreement was having kids. I wanted to have children but she wanted to wait.” 
 
Last October, their marital problems reached boiling point. “Our arguments aggravated. She left me and went to her parents. I requested her to return many times but she declined. Finally, I went to her parents’ house to ask her to come home. She told me she would return only if I signed half of my property in her name or give her Rs 15 lakh as financial guarantee. I flatly rejected her conditions. She hit back by filing a criminal case against me under the Domestic Violence Act alleging that I had harassed her for dowry. In addition, she filed a case seeking maintenance from me. Both the cases were filed in AP just to harass me. She then mailed FIR copies to my employer and even sent a telegram to my work place to portray me as a criminal. Thanks to her, I lost my job. With cops chasing me and unemployed, I became depressed. I even thought of suicide. That’s when I got in touch with Confidare Consultancy and became its member.” 
 
Prithvi landed at the shelter in April with two bags of clothes, some books, and almost broke. “I was once making Rs 50,000 a month and lived in a good house in Indiranagar paying Rs 12,000 as rent. Now, I couldn’t afford to rent a place. I needed a place my wife could not trace because I had to protect myself. I was fortunate to find this sanctuary. Considering my financial condition, Confidare even waived the fee.” Confidare charges a person Rs 150 per day to stay at the shelter. Inmates must make their own arrangements for food. No deposit is taken. Pandurang Katti, care-taker of the shelter, says, “This facility operates on trust. Those wanting to stay here must be members for at least six months and should gain our trust.” Pandurang emphasises it is not a “paying guest” facility.
 
At Confidare, Prithvi was given legal advice, apprised of his rights as a man and coached how to defend himself in court. “I also received moral support there,” says Prithvi. The safe house can shelter four men at any given time. Katti says: “As of now, we are not equipped enough if men flood the place. That’s why we don’t want to publicise its address.We do not have the bandwidth to run it on a 24/7 basis.” 
 
How does Confidare ensure that it doesn’t end up accommodating at the shelter men who have committed crimes against women? Virag says, “We don’t judge anyone. The courts are there to judge who is innocent or guilty. We only support to those who approach us. Generally, men who have committed crimes do not approach us. Such people need not approach us.The center’s aim is to help provide men temporary stay so that they can stabilise themselves.”
 
At the shelter, Prithvi slowly began to pick up the pieces of his broken life. “When I came to the safe house, I was vulnerable and on the verge of losing my mind. However, at the shelter I got back peace of mind. I began to think of my future course of action and started looking for a job.” 
 
At the shelter Prithvi would wake up at 7 am, sweep the apartment and make breakfast. At 10 am, he would study law books for a couple of hours. He would then head out for lunch. Post lunch, he would either take a nap or go to an internet centre to apply for jobs. Evening, would again be study time followed by dinner and sleep. He quips, “It was good to get some sleep after many sleepless nights.” 
 
The routine changed when new inmates arrived. He would interact with them a lot and listen to their stories. “It helped to meet other men like me there. Some of their stories were way worse than mine.” During weekends, he used to volunteer at Confidare’s community centre in Koramangala and counsel other men.
 
The stay at the shelter was also a humbling experience for Prithvi. “I once lived very well. Here I was having lunch and dinner at roadside eateries. I was living on money given by my retired parents, relatives and friends.” 
 
Anil says, “So far, six guys have stayed in the shelter, while about 30 approached us to use the facility.” Anil is already thinking of what will follow the shelter. “As it is certain that a lot of men may not marry due to ever increasing complicated laws of marriage and the high costs involved, the next logical step is to create hostels and old age assisted-living facilities for such men, which can provide them some security at old age. All this is part of a budding global men's movement called MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way), where men may not really seek committed female companionship or even children, but rather prefer a peaceful or even monk like existence enriching their lives.” 
 
Meanwhile, Prithvi’s job hunt has paid off. He moved out of the shelter last week after he was hired by an IT firm in a city in South India. He does not see any chance of reconciliation with his wife. He wants to fight out all the cases filed by his wife. He says, “My priority is to live peacefully and contribute something to society.” That’s a big change in a man who entered the domestic violence shelter three months ago contemplating suicide.

Community of confidants
Confidare Consultancy offers help for husbands physically or verbally abused, or facing threats from their wives or in-laws. Its clientele includes men facing police complaints and court cases related to marital issues. It offers members coaching and education to be peaceful and fight court cases effectively. Men seeking help from Confidare are required to become members by paying a fee – Rs 2,500 for six months and Rs 4,500 for one year. Membership is also open to NRIs. Confidare also runs a Men’s Rights Community Center in Koramangala. The center offers members access to basic law books, legal citations, reference material, and videos related to laws and men’s rights.Anil says, “Our support group meetings are like Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, where men feel peaceful and free in spite of abuse and threats they face.” At one point of time, a majority of Confidare’s members were techies. Virag says, “Now, we have members from all strata of the society because men are being abused irrespective of their position in society. We have members who are auto drivers and bank attenders.“Helpline: 9008302822
 

Friday, 2 August 2013

‘Rape cases will drop 70% if HC ruling is enforced’

‘Rape cases will drop 70% if HC ruling is enforced’

City lawyers handling domestic and family disputes have welcomed a recent judgement by the Bombay High Court (HC) stating that women filing false rape cases should be prosecuted.

Mens organisations have said that this judgement will help create a gender neutral society and if properly executed will help to bring down the number of rape cases by 70 per cent. They allege that most rape cases are filed after relations break down after consensual sex.


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Justice Sadhna Jadhav of the HC on Wednesday observed that women who file rape cases in a fit of rage to fix their partners and later withdraw complaints, should be prosecuted.

She remarked that of late several cases were coming before the HC in which victims filed complaints alleging rape and contending that they had entered relationships after being promised marriage.

In a relationship between consenting adults, sometimes such complaints are filed in the heat of moment and withdrawn later. This has be-come a trend and sends wrong signal to the society, the judge observed on Wednesday.

The court cautioned the police to be vigilant and hold an initial inquiry to find out whether a rape complaint was genuine before registering the case.

The judge was hearing an anticipatory bail plea by Divyesh Vala (35), who admitted that he was in a relationship with a 42-year-old central excise inspector. He pleaded that he was falsely implicated and the case was causing him harm and agony.

The two had met through a social networking site and came close to each other after joining an Art of Living course. The woman alleged that she was raped by Vala, who promised to marry her. However, he married another woman and she felt cheated. Hence, she filed a complaint of rape.

The judge granted anticipatory bail to Vala for the sum of Rs 15,000 and asked him to report to the police station every Sunday until the investigation was over. The judge said it was not inclined to send Vala in custody because no useful purposes would be served in doing so, except satisfying the victim’s vendetta.

Talking to Mirror senior lawyer Milind Pawar said, “Some 90 per cent cases get registered just to satisfy vendetta after break ups. Though such cases are registered it is hard to prove them medically.”

In some cases, the Supreme Court has directed that FIRs in rape cases should be filed immediately, since later on it is difficult to prove it medically Pawar said. “This judgement will certainly teach a lesson to those who use the law to settle their own scores.”

Criminal layer Vijay Pamnani said, “In such rape cases the investigation officer’s role is very important to understand whether rape was actually committed or not. In the said case, the victim being a 42 years old, educated and  working as a central excise inspector knew very well that such a relationship is illicit in Indian society. I believe the HC has passed perfect orders considering facts of the case.”

Atit Rajpara, founder president of the Men’s Rights Association (MRA), Pune said, “Figures of increasing rape cases are only because of such false cases. Some women misuse the law like in domestic violence related cases.

In a recent survey, it was revealed that in Pune over 74 per cent cases of rape are consensual. We welcome this judgement as it has shown sensitivity towards men.”

However, lawyer Shirish Gade has a different opinion. He said, “As a criminal lawyer I believe that if the HC passes such orders against rape victim, those who wish to rape a girl will propose marriage and rape them. Unfortunately, victims won’t come forward due to such orders.

Additionally, in our society girls keep quiet about these serious offences as they are scared of society and fear nobody will marry them thereafter.”

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