PIL questions immediate arrests in dowry harassment cases

JAIPUR: A division bench of the high court has asked state government to give its reply to a PIL filed by one Vinod Singhal who questioned immediate arrests in cases pertaining to Section 498A (dowry harassment) and Section 406 of IPC (criminal breach of trust) filed by aggrieved wives against husband and his relatives.
The petition alleges that 70% matrimonial disputes are being converted into criminal cases by misuse of the provisions of Sections 498A and 406 of IPC. It has been alleged that once such a false criminal case is filed against the husband and his relatives the police immediately arrest the accused resulting in vanishing of chances of reconciliation between the warring husband and wife.

The PIL raises a point that since the offences are non-bailable, some guidelines must be issued so as to see that no husband or his relatives are arrested on false complaints. The petitioner demands that instead of registering the FIR immediately, the police must first call the parties for conciliation and in case the dispute remains unresolved, then only action should be initiated against the guilty husband and his relatives.
It has also been highlighted in the petition that in the recent past the Supreme Court too had observed that the law made for protection of women is being misused and has asked the Law Commission of India to report as to whether the law can be made bailable. The division bench of Chief Justice Amitava Roy and Justice V S Siradhana directed that a copy of the PIL be supplied to the government advocate.
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-07-09/jaipur/40468015_1_pil-questions-dowry-harassment-cases-division-bench

पत्‍नी के रहते हुए दूसरी महिला से अफेयर क्रूरता नहीं: सुप्रीम कोर्ट

सुप्रीम कोर्ट ने फैसला सुनाते हुए कहा है कि अगर कोई पति किसी अन्‍य महिला के नजदीक जाता है तो उसे अपनी पत्‍नी पर क्रूरता का कसूरवार नहीं ठहराया जा सकता. कोर्ट का कहना है कि ऐसा मामला तब तक क्रूरता के दायरे में नहीं आएगा जब तक कि पति की नजदीकी अन्य महिला के साथ इतनी न हो जाए कि उसकी पत्नी आत्महत्या करने पर मजबूर हो जाए.
जस्टिस केएस राधाकृष्‍णन की अध्‍यक्षता वाली बेंच ने कहा, 'हमारा ऐसा मानना है कि शादीशुदा रिश्ते के कायम रहने के दौरान अगर पति किसी और के नजदीक आ जाता है और वह अपनी वैवाहिक जिम्मेदारियां नहीं निभाता है तो भी यह पत्नी के साथ क्रूरता नहीं है.'
उन्‍होंने कहा, 'लेकिन अगर दूसरी महिला से पति की नजदीकी इस कदर हो कि पत्‍नी आत्‍महत्‍या करने पर मजबूर हो जाए तो आईपीसी की धारा 498-ए के तहत मामला बनता है.'
यह फैसला एक शख्‍स की अपील पर सुनाया गया, जिसके ऊपर धारा 498-ए के तहत अपनी पत्नी के साथ क्रूरता बरतने और धारा 306 के तहत आत्महत्या के लिए उकसाने का आरोप था.
इस जोड़े ने 1989 में शादी की थी. बाद में पति का अपनी सहयोगी के साथ अफेयर हो गया. इसके बाद तथाकथित रूप से पत्नी अलग-थलग महसूस करने लगी और मार्च 1996 में उसने आत्महत्या कर ली.
बेंच ने कहा, 'अदालत ने पाया कि तथाकथित एक्स्ट्रा-मेरिटल रिश्ता ऐसा नहीं था कि वह आरोपी शख्स की पत्नी को आत्महत्या के लिए मजबूर कर दे. इसके साथ ही आत्महत्या करने वाली महिला के पति ने कभी कोई ऐसा काम नहीं किया जो सामान्य परिस्थिति में पत्नी को आत्महत्या के लिए उकसाए.'
अदालत ने यह भी कहा कि अगर साबित हो जाए तो एक्स्ट्रा-मेरिटल अफेयर को गैरकानूनी और अनैतिक करार दिया जा सकता है. लेकिन इस मामले में यह साबित नहीं किया जा सका है कि पति ने पत्नी को आत्महत्या के लिए मजबूर किया.

http://aajtak.intoday.in/story/cheating-husbands-arent-guilty-of-cruelty-unless-it-drives-their-wives-to-suicide-supreme-court-rules-1-741494.html

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Caught on camera: Girl steals diamonds worth Rs. 25 lakh from Jaipur showroom

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l4dad6am0js

बच्चियों की मां आई और अमिताभ से 2 लाख रुपये लेकर चंपत हो गई

अंजलि और रिमझिम

एक महिला द्वारा महानायक अमिताभ बच्‍चन की दरियादिली का बेजा फायदा उठाकर फरार होने का बेहद अनोखा मामला सामने आया है. मामला ऐसा है, जिससे पूरी इंसानियत शर्मसार हो जाए. अमिताभ बच्चन से मदद के तौर पर मिली 2 लाख रुपये की राशि लेकर दो बच्चियों की मां के चंपत होने से बिग बी का इनकी मदद करना बेकार साबित हुआ.
ये दोनों बहनें रिमझिम (12) और अंजलि (11) हैं. इन्हें इनकी मां ने बेसहारा छोड़ दिया था और अब इनका एकमात्र सहारा पटना के एक निजी स्कूल के प्रिंसिपल अविनेश्वर प्रसाद सिंह हैं, जहां वे तीसरी कक्षा में पढती और रहती हैं.
इन दोनों लडकियों की मां शिखा पांडेय स्वयं को मुजफ्फरपुर की निवासी होने का दावा करती थी. उसने साल 2006 के अक्‍टूबर में पटना के शांति निकेतन स्कूल में दाखिला करवाया लेकिन इसके बाद वह लापता हो गयी.
शांति निकेतन स्कूल के प्राचार्य अविनेश्वर प्रसाद सिंह ने बताया कि अमिताभ इन परित्यक्त बहनों के बारे में एक टीवी समाचार चैनल माध्यम से मिली जानकारी के आधार पर इनकी मदद को आगे आए.
27 जनवरी, 2008 को पुत्रवधु ऐश्वर्या राय के नाम पर उत्तर प्रदेश के बाराबंकी में एक बालिका स्कूल के शिलान्यास के अवसर पर अमिताभ बच्चन से इन बच्चियों को मिलवाने के लिए ले जाए जाने के ठीक तीन दिनों पहले उनकी मां के अचानक सामने आयी. उसने बताया कि उसके पति के जेल में होने के कारण उसे आर्थिक कठिनाइयां झेलनी पडीं, जिस वजह से बच्चों के पास नहीं आ सकी.
उन्होंने कहा कि शिखा पांडेय अपनी दोनों बेटियों के साथ बाराबंकी गयी और बच्चन ने समारोह के दौरान इन दोनों बच्चियों को अपनी गोद में उठाते हुए उनके बेहतर भविष्य के लिए उनकी मां को 2 लाख रुपये का चैक दिया दिया था.
सिंह ने कहा कि अगले दिन दोनों बच्चियां अपनी मां के साथ स्कूल लौट आयीं और उन्हें वापस ले जाने का वादा कर चैक लेकर रवाना हुई उनकी मां दोबारा नहीं लौटी. उन्होंने कहा कि जब उनकी मुलाकात बच्चन जी से होगी, तो वे निश्चित तौर पर उन्हें इन बच्चियों के साथ हुए इस धोखे के बारे में उन्‍हें बताएंगे.
सिंह ने बताया कि पूर्व में ये दोनों बहनें रातभर रोती रहती थीं, लेकिन समय बीतने के साथ अब उनके आंखों के आंसू सूख चुके हैं और वे अब अपनी मां के बारे में और इस घटना के बारे में बात करना पसंद नहीं करतीं. इन दोनों बहनों में बडी बहन रिमझिम को मिर्गी की बीमारी है और प्रिंसिपल के लिए उसकी देखभाल करना मुश्किल हो रहा है.

http://aajtak.intoday.in/story/amitabh-bachchans-help-goes-in-vain-for-deserted-patna-sisters-1-741330.html

Coimbatore woman files abuse case against husband working in California

COIMBATORE: A software engineering working in California has been booked for physically and mentally abusing his wife by Coimbatore city police on Saturday. The police have decided to send a lookout notice to all airports in the country to arrest the software engineer.
According to police, Reena Rose Magdalene (31), from Subbarayanpudur near Somanur on the outskirts of the city, lodged a complaint with all women police station, Ramanathapuram, on Saturday. She stated in her complaint that she had completed her Msc Mphil and got married to A Lourde Thangaraj (34) from Periyar Nagar at Puliyakulam in the city on May 16, 2010. Her family gave a dowry of 15 sovereigns of gold and Rs2lakh cash. Soon after the wedding, the couple left for California.

The trouble started when Thangaraj began to physically and mentally abuse his wife.
Unable to bear the torture, Reena returned to India and resumed living with her parents. After relatives from both sides advised the couple, Reena returned to California to give her marriage another try.
However, Thangaraj had taken some obscene pictures of his wife discretely and began to threaten her saying if she failed to please him, he would publish the pictures online. This forced Reena to return to her hometown again. Her parents-in-law Anthony Grouse and Josephine Fernad also demanded for additional dowry from her.
Reena lodged a complaint with all women police station, Ramanathapuram on Saturday. Police inspector D Sathi Anusuya registered a case against the software engineer and his parents under section 498 (A) (husband or relatives of husband of a woman subjecting her to cruelty), 506 (i) (criminal intimidation) and under section 4 of Tamil Nadu Prohibition of Women Harassment Act.
Based on a Madras high court order, a case has been registered by police. "We will a send lookout notice to all airports in the country to detain the software engineer when he arrives in India," said inspector Sathi Anusuya. She also added that the police would conduct a detailed inquiry in connection with the case.

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-09-09/coimbatore/41902427_1_software-engineer-women-police-station-coimbatore-woman

Man kills wife’s lover in Chennai

CHENNAI: A 33-year-old painter killed his wife's lover when he found them sleeping together in his house at Maduravoyal here in the wee hours of Sunday.
M Sakthivel, a resident of Rajiv Gandhi Nagar in Alapakkam, left home at 8pm on Saturday after an altercation with his wife, Bhuvaneshwari. He returned home at 12.30am on Sunday and knocked on the door. When the door was not opened, he got suspicious and barged into the house and found Bhuvaneshwari sleeping with his neighbour, Satish.

An angry Sakthivel attacked Satish with a knife and killed him in front of Bhuvaneshwari. Sakthivel's three children were sleeping in the adjacent room when the murder happened.
After the murder, Sakthivel went to the Maduravoyal police station and informed the police about it. They arrested and produced him before a magistrate court in the city on Sunday. The court remanded him in judicial custody.
Preliminary inquiries revealed that Bhuvaneshwari had eloped with Satish a year ago. Based on Sakthivel's complaint, the police then registered a woman missing case and traced her. The police reportedly warned her and asked her to stay with her husband. However, she allegedly continued to meet Satish.
Sakthivel married Bhuvaneshwari 10 years ago.

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-09-08/chennai/41873073_1_satish-bhuvaneshwari-wife-s-lover 

Hyderabadi girls keeping their boyfriends in dark

While their parents are in the know, an increasing number of city girls are keeping their boyfriends in the dark about going clubbing with friends.

Remember the time when you'd lie at home to go partying and then sneak back into your room, while everyone at home was busy snoring? And while at the party, you'd request the present photographers not to take your pictures because, "Mummy ko nahi pata". Well, if you are smiling while reading this and getting nostalgic, chances are, you haven't been to the party scene of late. These days, apne Hyderabadi girls are bindaas when it comes to letting their hair down, and are also keeping their parents in the loop. But wait! There is still one person who is kept in the dark about our party ladies' clubbing rendezvous — the boyfriend! With boyfriends and partners turning extra possessive and sometimes, even borderline creepy, the pretty ladies have begun to decline the Page 3 shutterbugs, for fear of being 'caught' by their paramours.

And the trademark statement doing the rounds in city nightclubs these days is, "Please don't click my pictures. My boyfriend doesn't know I'm clubbing. Pleaseeee!" From smartly doling out bahanas to their chipkoo boyfriends and giving cute chakmas, which they claim is completely unintentional, PYTs reveal why they aren't camera friendly anymore.

Because BFs are super possessive

A lot of young women in the city claim that their boyfriends have become over-possessive. From not wanting them to wear sexy outfits, to restricting their access to the dance floor, the men lay down way too many rules when it comes to a night out. And in a bid to break free from such restrictions, the ladies resort to lying! "My boyfriend is extremely possessive. So one night, I lied to him about being at a gal pal's house for a pyjama party, while in fact, I was out clubbing," admits Tania, a corporate employee. But the 'secret night out' did not end up being fun, because, "I was so busy enjoying myself at the club that I posed for one of the shutterbug. A day later, my pictures were splashed across two dailies, and my boyfriend got to know the truth. I missed 58 of his calls, as I was busy thinking of an excuse. As expected, there was a huge fight and I eventually ended up having a hard time convincing him to forgive me. I learnt a big lesson that day and ever since, every time I go partying, I refuse to get clicked," says Tania.

Coz' BFs are way too filmi

Blame it on growing up on a steady dose of Bollywood films, but our PYTs say that their boyfriends have turned into sappy, cheesy 'Rahuls and Rajs of Bollywood'. "I'm just 20-years-old and I think at this age, it's fine to go out and have some fun. But my boyfriend rants on about saat janmo ka saath, pavitra rishta and stuff like that! He expects me to not go clubbing with friends and instead, stay at home. This is way too filmi for a 20-year-old! That's why I lie when I go out with my friends," explains Lipi Suresh*, a pharmaceutical student.

Coz' BFs dole out too much gyan

When you have Mummy and Daddy giving you gyan every morning or evening, you definitely don't need the same from your boyfriends. So, it's a complete turn off when boyfriends, over a period of time, turn into your parents! Rebaica Safiya, a student, says, "I know a few over-protective boyfriends. So, I won't be surprised if their girls lie to them and go clubbing. We usually tell our parents everything because right now, with the whole scenario of us not being safe, they need to know where we are. But if we tell our boyfriends, they begin a proper interrogation and hit us with a barrage of questions like, 'Where are you going? Who are you going with? Who are the guys going with you?' and so on — it's like they've turned into our parents! In fact, parents are a lot cooler than boyfriends these days."

Coz' BFs want 'good girls'

Now, how many times have you heard the sentence, 'achchi ladkiyan clubs nahi jaati', from the nosy neighbourhood aunty? Most city guys, claim young girls, want their girlfriends to not go clubbing in case their 'image' takes a beating. "My ex-boyfriend had this mindset that girls who like partying are not worth taking home to mom! How sexist and patriarchal is that?" asks Neha Kumar*, a final year Psychology student. "If I party and you term me as a 'bad girl', you don't deserve to be my boyfriend. But many girls stick to such men and then lie to them before going clubbing. But since everyone knows everyone in the Hyderabad party circuit, your secret will be out soon," reveals Neha.

COZ' girls just wanna have fun

The concept of guys spending a fun night out in town with their buddies is acceptable to most city boys. But when it comes to their girlfriends spending time with their friends, alarm bells begin to ring. "Guys don't understand that just like them, we too need some well-deserved 'me' time. When it's just our girls' night out at the club, we can dance, have fun and casually flirt with cute guys. But with our boyfriends constantly keeping a hawk-eye watch on us, we can't do all of that!" says Malliha Fatima, an undergraduate student. Marika Gabriel, student, echoes a similar sentiment, saying, "Guys have now become 'possessive girlfriends'. With the possessiveness and the continuous calling and finding out where we are and what we are doing, they don't understand that we need space too." http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/Hyderabadi-girls-keeping-their-boyfriends-in-dark/articleshow/22070285.cms?intenttarget=no 

1 in 10 men in Asia Pacific has raped an unknown woman, finds study

Feminism spread in such way that study results are coming the way they wants to show to others.

LONDON: In a new study to be announced on Tuesday by the British medical journal The Lancet, a survey of more than 10,000 men in Asia Pacific region has found that over 1 in 10 men report having raped a woman who was not their partner.

The number rose tremendously when rape of a partner was included.

Nearly 75% of those who committed rape said that they did so for sexual entitlement and over 50% said they did it for entertainment. Another 50% of men reported having committed some form of physical or sexual violence or abuse against their partner.

Men were surveyed from nine different sites across six different countries: Bangladesh, Cambodia, China, Indonesia, Papua New Guinea and Sri Lanka as part of a UN study on men and violence for prevention of gender-based violence in Asia and the Pacific.

Professor Rachel Jewkes of South Africa's Medical Research Council who carried out the study said, "In view of the high prevalence of rape worldwide, our findings clearly show that prevention strategies need to show increased focus on the structural and social risk factors for rape. We now need to move towards a culture of preventing the perpetration of rape from ever occurring, rather than relying on prevention through responses."

The surveys were performed by trained male interviewers who recorded results onto handheld computer devices with bespoke software. Participants answered the most sensitive questions alone by self-completing audio recordings in response to questions.

Men were not asked directly whether they had committed rape or violence, but were rather asked questions such as, "Have you ever forced a woman who was not your wife or girlfriend at the time to have sex?", or "Have you ever had sex with a woman who was too drugged or drunk to indicate whether she wanted it?"

Overall, over one in ten men surveyed (11%) reported having raped a woman who was not their partner.

When raping a partner was included, this proportion rose to nearly 24%. Of those men who reported having committed rape, just under half (45%) said they had raped more than one woman.

The prevalence of rape perpetration varied widely between study sites. The lowest prevalence of single perpetrator rape of a female non-partner was in rural Bangladesh (3%), while the highest prevalence (27%) was in Bougainville, Papua New Guinea.

The lowest prevalence (2%) of male rape was found in Jayapura and Jakarta in Indonesia while the highest (8%) was again found in Bougainville, Papua New Guinea.

When asked why they had committed rape, 73% of respondents who had committed rape said that they did so for reasons of sexual entitlement.

Over half (59%) said they did it for entertainment, while over a third (38%) said they had raped a woman in order to punish her. Over half (58%) of men who had raped somebody who was not their partner had committed their first rape as teenagers.

Men with a history of victimization especially childhood sexual abuses were more likely to have committed rape than those without such a past.

A history of physical violence towards a partner, having paid for sex, or having had a large number of sexual partners were also associated with an increased likelihood of having committed rape against a non-partner. 

 

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/world/uk/1-in-10-men-in-Asia-Pacific-has-raped-an-unknown-woman-finds-study/articleshow/22452776.cms 

HC gives guide lines to lower courts on maintainance cases

CHENNAI: The Madras High Court has instructed trial courts dealing with the cases of maintenance to follow the guidelines under Section 125 of Criminal Procedure code.
Justice S Vimala gave the instruction, while deciding whether a trial court should permit restoration of the petition for maintenance.
Through this, the wife could seek revision of compensation order on the ground that it was inadequate.
On a criminal revision cases filed by Vimala Sophia and her minor son, the Judge said trial courts could grant interim maintenance based upon the affidavit filed by the petitioners.
Petitions filed for interim maintenance shall be disposed of within 60 Days from the date of Service of the Notice to the concerned parties, the judge said.
The above provision would help to prove interim maintenance for women and also provide equal opportunity for the wife to contest the case, the Judge said, directing the trial courts dealing with the cases of maintenance to record the reasons if they are unable to pass the interim maintenance.
The courts dealing with such cases at the first hearing itself should make use of the provisions providing for the oral examination of parties to ascertain whether the dispute can be referred to alternate dispute resolution methods.
Vimala Sophaia sought the court to permit her to withdraw the endorsement made by her and for enhancement of the maintenance.
The trial Court has passed an order in 2009 to pay Rs 2000 per month by Vimala Sophia's husband to the minor son who is suffering from Deficit Hyper Activity Disorder.
Challenging the order she filed the petition in the High Court.
The Judge set aside the order of the lower court and directed her husband to pay Rs 10,000 per month to the son from 01.02.2012 till the disposal of both the maintenance cases as an interim measure.
The Judge also set-aside the order passed by the trial court not allowing the wife to withdraw endorsement made by her to the effect that she is withdrawing the case. The Judge then directed the Family Court, Chennai, which is dealing with the case to dispose of both the petitions. 

http://articles.economictimes.indiatimes.com/2013-09-07/news/41855041_1_interim-maintenance-trial-courts-minor-son 

Man elopes with mother of fiancee

CHENNAI: The Pallikaranai police are looking for a 25-year-old man who allegedly eloped with the mother of the woman he was to marry later this month. The construction worker, who often visited the house of his fiancee after the engagement, got attracted to the older woman and the two began a relationship that culminated in their running away, police said.

Parthasarathy, a native of Tindivanam who lived in Kovilambakkam near Pallikaranai, got engaged to an 18-year-old woman in the same area about two months ago. The girl's father Sekar, 38, and mother Vasantha, 35, were construction labourers working in the locality and got to know of Parthasarathy and the match was fixed.
Soon, Parthasarathy became a frequent visitor to his fiancee's house and began mingling closely with all her family members. Vasantha was apparently taken in by his good behaviour and he began to present her with gifts, police said.
They gradually became close to one another. Vasantha often skipped work and stayed at home and Parthasarathy came to meet her. A few days ago, Vasantha's daughter allegedly found the two of them together in an intimate position, investigators said.
That evening, soon after Sekar returned from work, the girl told him about it. A day after the incident, Vasantha went missing. A subsequent check revealed that Parthasarathy was also missing.
Sekar then lodged a complaint with the Pallikaaranai police who registered a case and launched a hunt for the two.

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-09-08/chennai/41873523_1_fiancee-man-elopes-sekar

अच्छी बहू: पढ़ें एक वर्किंग वुमन की उम्मीदें

Is this need or demand? Already feminism reached its high then why do we need these kind of news paper articles?


हमने 'अच्छी बहू' पर एक बहस शुरू की है। इस बहस में लोगों ने जबर्दस्त ढंग से पार्टिसिपेट किया। इस पर बेशुमार प्रतिक्रियाएं मिलीं। इसी क्रम में हमारी एक रीडर ने हमसे अपनी 'उम्मीदें' एक कविता के जरिए शेयर की। रीडर की यह अनुभूति दिल को छू लेने वाली है।

यह कविता मूल रूप से अंग्रेजी में है, लेकिन हमने आपके लिए इसका भावार्थ हिंदी में भी कर दिया है। इसे पढ़ें और इस पर अपनी प्रतिक्रिया दें:-
Tomorrow u may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well...
Here is a girl, who is as educated as you ; Who is earning as much as you ;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are ;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements.

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, as much as you do for 25 years of her life ;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more,

and yet never ever expected to complain ;

to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to ; and is learning just like you are, as to what you want from her ; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you.

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burner to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities.

Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply

Because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise.

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met.

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some

and trust her.

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it that.

But not many guys understand this...


हिंदी में भावार्थ:-

कल को आपकी शादी एक वर्किंग वुमन से भी हो सकती है, मगर शादी करने से पहले आपको इन बातों का ख्याल रखना होगा;

एक लड़की है, जो आपकी तरह ही पढ़ी-लिखी है और कमा भी रही है। उसके ख्वाब भी आपकी तरह ही हैं, क्योंकि वह भी आपकी तरह इंसान ही तो है। वह लड़की 25 सालों तक अपने पैरंट्स और भाई-बहनों के साथ रही, ठीक आपकी ही तरह। जिसने बड़ी ही बहादुरी से अपने घर और परिजनों को छोड़ने का फैसला कर लिया, ताकि आपके घर, आपके परिवार, तौर-तरीकों और परिवार के नाम को अपना सके।

जब वह लड़की नए हालात, नए माहौल से जूझ रही होती है, तब आप बेखबर होकर सो रहे होते हैं। और उस लड़की से उम्मीद की जाती है कि पहले ही दिन वह मास्टर शेफ बन जाए। वह लड़की कभी किचन में नहीं गई थी। ठीक आपकी बहन की तरह, जो कि अपनी पढ़ाई में बिज़ी होने या फिर दूसरे संघर्षों की वजह से ऐसा नहीं कर पाई। मगर ये सब बातें उस लड़की को किचन में किसी तरह की रियायत नहीं दिला पातीं।

उससे सुबह उठकर सबसे पहले चाय बनाने की उम्मीद की जाती है और दिन के आखिर में खाना बनाने की चाह रखी जाती है। इस बात का कोई फर्क नहीं पड़ता कि वह आपकी ही तरह या आपसे ज्यादा थकी-मांदी है। वह नौकर, कुक, मां और पत्नी जैसी भूमिकाएं एक साथ निभा रही होती है। भले ही यह सब करने का उसका मन न हो, मगर वह ये सब करती है। और ऊपर से उससे उम्मीद की जाती है कि वह इसके लिए उफ तक न करे।

वह समझने की कोशिश करती है कि आप उससे क्या उम्मीदें रखते हैं, क्या चाहते है। मगर उसे यह भी मालूम रहता है कि आपको उसका डिमांडिंग होना पसंद नहीं आएगा। उसे यह भी मालूम है कि अगर वह आपके मुकाबले जल्दी से सीखती-समझती है, तो आपको यह बात भी पसंद नहीं आएगी।

उसके अपने दोस्त होते हैं, जिनमें लड़के और उसके ऑफिस में काम करने वाले पुरुष भी शामिल हैं। वे लोग भी, जिन्हें वह स्कूल के दिनों से जानती है। मगर वह उन सबको छोड़ने के लिए तैयार है, ताकि आपको किसी तरह की जलन न हो और बेवजह इनसिक्यॉर न हो जाएं। हां, वह आपकी ही तरह ड्रिंक कर सकती है, डांस कर सकती है, मगर वह ऐसा नहीं करती। भले ही आप कुछ भी कहें, मगर आप इसे पसंद नहीं करेंगे। वह काम की डेडलाइन्स को पूरा करने के लिए कभी-कभी ऑफिस से लेट भी हो सकती है, जैसे कि आप भी होते हैं।

अगर आप उसकी थोड़ी सी मदद करें और उस पर ट्रस्ट करें, तो वह अपनी तरफ से पूरी कोशिश करती है कि ताकि उसकी जिंदगी का सबसे खास रिश्ता कामयाब हो। पूरे घर में वह आपके ही सबसे ज्यादा करीब होती है। उसे आपसे कुछ ज्यादा नहीं चाहिए, वह आपसे सपोर्ट चाहती है और चाहती है कि आप सेंसिटिव रहें उसे लेकर। जो बात उसके लिए सबसे ज्यादा मायने रखती है, वह यह कि आप उसे समझें। जी हां, इस सब को आप प्यार कह सकते है। यानी वह बस इतना चाहती है कि आप उसे प्यार करें।

मगर बहुत कम लोग हैं जो इस बात को समझते हैं...
  http://navbharattimes.indiatimes.com/home-and-relations/ladies-special/working-women/articleshow/22438856.cms