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Monday, 9 September 2013

Bail, not jail, the norm, says SC, but the reality is opposite

MUMBAI: Bail, not jail, is a dominant principle of criminal law practised by every mature democracy and in India often in its breach. Be it A Raja or Kanimozhi in the 2G case, Suresh Kalmadi in the CWG case or Asaram, facing an unproven sexual assault charge, once a case becomes high profile courts are diffident to grant bail even if that flies against the express directive of the Supreme Court.
The same neglect of the principle is often seen in the case of thousands of undertrial prisoners — people who fall in a category that's quite the opposite of the high-profile cases; men and women without resources, financial or political — who are left to languish in jail for want of bail orders from trial courts.
A Mumbai lawyer says: "It's not only the underprivileged who fail to secure justice at a pre-trial stage, even highprofile arrests — cases that attract media hype — are often denied bail without adequate reasons for days or months." While releasing a bunch of accused in the 2G scam case, the SC reinforced that bail ought to be a norm, not jail.
Stiff opposition by police to bail applications even when investigations are over and the accused not likely to flee, has become the norm, lawyers said. Senior crime counsel Amit Desai said: "The court must be alive to the fact that liberty, a fundamental right, is taken away in such instances. It must ensure that the investigating officer concentrates on investigation that requires an accused to be in custody so that he can secure his liberty at the earliest.''
Police often treat denial of bail as an "easy route'', say experts. "Trials take time to begin. Often pre-trial incarceration exceeds maximum punishment for the charges invoked or becomes an incentive for police not to create a water-tight case on evidence,'' said advocate Saurabh Kirpal from Delhi. He added: "It becomes an easy route not to work hard at getting a conviction and treat pre-trial custody as substitute punishment."
There are times when despite long pre-trial jail, the case may end with an acquittal, which makes a mockery of justice. The need for an arrest is to secure presence of the accused for investigation, prevent further crimes and escape, make the community safer if the accused is prone to violence, and witness tampering. When these factors are absent, bail should be automatic.
Ashok Desai, former attorney general, said, "The object of denying bail cannot be punitive because punishment starts after conviction. Until then the accused is deemed innocent. Although bail, not jail, is the principle, there are two main factors to deny bail — possibility of the accused absconding and probability that he may interfere with the investigation and witnesses.
"A court has to balance the valuable right of liberty and the interest of society. It's here that often the prosecution suggests that if the offence is serious or the accused is an influential person, there's a danger of his absconding. This is why courts can impose conditional bail. If a condition is transgressed, the bail can be cancelled. Bail cannot be denied to teach a lesson to one whose offence is yet to be proved."
A series of commissions, from the third police commission to the law commission, stressed how police misuse arrest-powers. Ram Jethmalani, ace defence counsel, has for decades stressed that "pretrial arrest is neither meant to be punitive nor a punishment before verdict. It's meant to facilitate investigation." If an accused cooperates with the police and submits himself for investigation there's no justification for arrest, he said.
Senior Supreme Court counsel CA Sundaram said that legally, bail is a right. Advocate Harshad Ponda said liberty is guaranteed as a fundamental right. Under the right to life, liberty cannot be denied without adequate reason. Except when justified in heinous crimes such as rape, murder and dacoity.
Added Shrikant Bhat, a leading crime counsel in Mumbai: "The SC in 1994 laid down guidelines that hold good today. It proscribed police from using their power to arrest, just because it exists, without justification." Advocate Aabad Ponda said: "The amendment to the CrPC is to bring in some checks on indiscriminate and liberal arrests without any warrant by police.'' Every offence classified as non-bailable does not justify an arrest, said advocate Anand Grover.
Even in jurisdictions abroad, as in Florida, the law is firm that bail applications be decided on grounds that don't impinge on a person's liberty more than necessary to aid investigation or secure society's interest.

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-09-08/india/41873447_1_denying-bail-conditional-bail-cwg-case

Monday, 2 September 2013

No anticipatory bail to Prince Tuli, Parents relieved

Nagpur News: A sessions court on Saturday rejected the anticipatory bail application of Prince Tuli but granted him protection from arrest for two weeks for approaching the Bombay High Court.
Mookhey had accused Tulli, a resident of Nagpur, of cruelty, criminal breach of trust, and unnatural sex in a complaint filed with Amboli Police on July 3. Tuli’s parents and sister were also booked.
The court, however, granted anticipatory bail to Tuli’s parents and sister, after their lawyer managed to prove that they had cooperated with the investigation.
The court transferred the investigation to the Bandra Police, after Mookhey approached the police commissioner alleging the investigating officer from Amboli Police Station was favouring the accused, as his family home was in Nagpur.
Mookhey had told the court that some videos of the couple was in Tuli’s possession, and expressed apprehension that he might make those public.
Mookhey’s counsel also referred to a second FIR that Mookhey filed against Tuli on August 18, citing a newspaper interview in which he allegedly ‘defamed’ her.

http://www.nagpurtoday.in/no-anticipatory-bail-to-prince-tuli-parents-relieved/ 

Thursday, 29 August 2013

Ensure women's safety = Ignore men's safety?

Recently Maharashtra Home Minister R R Patil assured all women journalists that the Government would provide them special security when they are out on their job.
Sounds like a populist measure dreamt up without considering the root cause of why crime in the society is on the rise.
Go through the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) report which states that ‘crimes against men are increasing rapidly' and more than 75% of murders reported in this country are against men.
Take a look at the Murder rate of Men vs Women:
Male Victims-24,441, Female Victims-8,718 Total Victims-33,159
Culpabale Homicide Not Amounting To Murder (Sec.304 and 308 IPC) During 2009
Male Victims=3,529, Female Victims=753 Total Victims=4282
Now we wonder, can a society provide safety to women, while men themselves are not safe? The NCRB report summarized the data of crimes against women and children, but they did not provide any details of crimes against men.
Since 2005, we have been providing the crime and murder data compiled by the NCRB to the Government, but they fed it to the bins as media never showed any concern over the safety of men, which is a need of society.
If you go through the report of "Committee to protect Journalists " and click on Gender, it clearly mentions that 97% of the journalists killed were men.
On August 24th, a Journalist from UP, Mr. Akhilesh, was killed. But there was hardly any protest from the journalists associations or any candlelight vigils by common people of society.
I am really not surprised given the biased approach prevalent in every institution. We have death penalty for murder, but the cases are increasing day by day. It is evident beyond reasonable doubt that increasing the punishment alone won’t help in reducing crime.
When someone commits a crime, what are the chances that he gets caught? Currently the number stands at 10 to 15 per cent on an average.Today the police can trap any innocent law abiding citizen in criminal cases but fails to catch the real criminal for months/years.
Once a criminal is caught the law punishes him for 10 to 12 years and if someone wants to prove his innocence it takes 10 to 12 years. So, the root cause is the failure of our criminal justice system and the police.
More stringent laws mean more power to police/judiciary, which could lead to abuse of power and more corruption. The failure of police to provide safety to Indian men never gets highlighted.
All women activists/media are running behind the women safety issue, like in a desert desperately trying to find a mirage.
History itself states that where men are not safe, dreaming of safety for women is nothing but fooling yourself.
Safety/violence is never a gender issue. Media friends must also understand the pain of a woman when she loses her brother or son or father.
 

HC asks sessions court to decide on bail plea of Yukta`s husband

MUMBAI: The Bombay HC on Wednesday asked a sessions court to decide on the anticipatory bail plea filed by former Miss World Yukta Mookhey's estranged husband Prince Tuli on August 30.

"The sessions judge has not taken into consideration that the offence under Section 498A is a continuing offence," said Justice Sadhna Jadhav. She said the trial judge did not consider the 15 non-cognisable offences, proceedings under the Domestic Violence Act and two complaints filed by Yukta. She had challenged the interim protection to Tuli and the sessions judge's observation that a case under Section 498 A could not be made out.

Additional public prosecutor P P Shinde told the high court that the investigation officer would place before the sessions court all the materials in the case, including the complaints filed by Mookhey.
 http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/HC-asks-sessions-court-to-decide-on-bail-plea-of-Yuktas-husband/articleshow/22130136.cms 

Wednesday, 28 August 2013

पिटाई? ओमपुरी ने बीवी पर ही लगा दिए हजार आरोप

मुंबई।। पत्नी को डंडे से पीटने के आरोप में पुलिस द्वारा भगोड़ा साबित किए गए जाने-माने ऐक्टर ओम पुरी का कहना है कि उनके घर में कोई डंडा है ही नहीं। उन्होंने अपने ऊपर लगे घरेलू हिंसा के आरोप को नकारते हुए कहा कि घर में एकमात्र बांस की सजावटी छड़ी है जिसे खुद उनकी पत्नी खरीदकर लाई थीं और इसे भी वह फरेंसिक जांच के लिए भेजने को तैयार हैं।

टीओआई से खास बातचीत में उन्होंने कहा, 'वह कहती हैं कि मैंने उन्हें सुबह 9:30 पर पीटा.. अगर ऐसा है तो वह पुलिस के पास शाम 4:30 बजे रपट लिखाने क्यों पहुंचीं.. आखिर सात घंटे वह किस बात का इतंजार कर रही थीं?' उन्होंने कहा कि छह हफ्ते पहले भी नंदिता उन पर और उनकी पूर्व पत्नी सीमा पर उनके बेटे को किडनैप करने की कोशिश का आरोप लगा चुकी हैं। जबकि, अगले ही दिन वह अपनी बात से पलट गईं और कहा कि उन्हें शक है कि हम ऐसा कर सकते हैं। ओम पुरी ने कहा, 'इस घटना से उनकी मानसिक हालत बयां होती है।'

ओम पुरी ने नंदिता की मानसिक हालत पर ही सवालिया निशान लगा दिया। पूरे मामले पर उनका कहना था, 'जिस समय कहासुनी हुई, उस समय नंदिता ने मेरा कॉलर पकड़ा और मुझे गालियां दीं। मैंने शांत रहने की कोशिश की और मैं घर से बाहर जाने लगा। लेकिन, उसने मेरा रास्ता रोक लिया और जब मैंने जबरदस्ती निकलने की कोशिश की तो उन्होंने कहना शुरू कर दिया कि मैं उनपर हमला कर रहा हूं।'

पत्नी नंदिता की पुलिस शिकायत पर ओम पुरी अग्रिम जमानत की कोशिश कर रहे हैं। ओम पुरी का कहना है कि नंदिता को वह घर और बेटे के लिए अच्छी खासी रकम देते हैं। लेकिन नंदिता काफी खर्चीली किस्म की हैं जबकि वह ग्रामीण परिवेश में पले-बढ़े हैं। बकौल ओम पुरी, 'नंदिता चाहती हैं कि वह आजीवन मिसेज ओम पुरी कहलाएं इसलिए वह तलाक भी नहीं ले रही हैं। साथ ही उन्हें अपने हाथ से वह रकम निकल जाने का भी डर है जो मैं उन्हें देता हूं।' उन्होंने नंदिता के इस दावे को भी खारिज कर दिया कि वह घर के रखरखाव के लिए पैसे नहीं देते हैं। उन्होंने कहा, 'वह घर के सभी तरह के बिल चुकाते हैं और तीन फ्लैट्स की हमारी जॉइंट ओनरशिप है। 'लेकिन, नंदिता को अपने खर्चों पर लगाम लगानी आती ही नहीं।'

सवालों के जवाब में ओम पुरी ने यह भी कहा कि वह नंदिता से तलाक के बाद अपनी पहली पत्नी के साथ रहना पसंद करेंगे।

ओम पुरी के शब्दों में: क्या हुआ था उस दिन?

ओम पुरी का कहना है कि राखी वाले दिन नंदिता ने उनसे 10 हजार रुपए मांगे। नंदिता यह रकम उन 10 लड़कियों को देना चाहती थी जिसने उनके बेटे ईशान को राखी बांधी थी। ओम पुरी के अनुसार, जब वह मांगे हुए पैसे दे चुके तो कुछ देर बाद फिर से नंदिता ने उनसे 3 हजार रुपए मांगे। नंदिता ने 3 हजार रुपए का मोबाइल घर की नौकरानी को दे दिया था क्योंकि नौकरानी ने भी ईशान को राखी बांधी थी। इस रकम को लेकर दोनों में कहासुनी हो गई और बकौल ओम पुरी, उन्हें अगले दिन पता चला कि उनके खिलाफ घरेलू हिंसा का केस दर्ज करवा दिया गया है।

पुलिस के अनुसार: क्या हुआ था उस दिन?

पुलिस का कहना है कि मियां-बीवी के बीच अंधेरी के वर्सोवा इलाके में सेवेन बंगलोज स्थित त्रुशिल बिल्डिंग में अपने फ्लैट के रखरखाव को लेकर कहासुनी शुरू हुई। उसके बाद नाराज ऐक्टर ने कथित तौर पर गुरुवार को रात नौ बजे के करीब छड़ी से अपनी पत्नी नंदिता की पिटाई की।

http://m.nbt.in/text/details.php?storyid=22120224&section=top-news 

Thursday, 22 August 2013

पुरुषहो, तुमच्यासाठी...

म. टा. प्रतिनिधी, नागपूर

पुरुष म्हणजे कुटुंबाची भिंत... त्याच्याशिवाय चांगल्या समाजाची कल्पनाच करवत नाही. असा हा पुरुष आज अडचणीत आहे. काही मोजक्या पुरुषांच्या एखाद्या कृत्याचे खापर अख्ख्या पुरुषजातीवर फोडले जाते. खरेतर, त्याच्यावरच अनेकदा अन्याय होतो. खोट्या गुन्ह्यांमध्ये तोच टार्गेट होतो. त्याचे ना कुणी ऐकत ना त्याच्या मदतीला जात. पुरुषांच्या याच अंतरंगाचा वेध घेण्यासाठी पहिल्यांदाच सेव्ह इंडियन फॅमिली फाउंडेशनतर्फे (सिफ) नागपूर विभागात पुरुष परिषद घेण्यात आली. पुरुषांच्या विविध समस्यांचा उहापोह येथे झाला. फाउंडेशनतर्फे पेंच येथे हे ५ वे पुरुष हक्क राष्ट्रीय अधिवेशन झाले. संपूर्ण भारतामधून ४० हजार कार्यकर्त्यांचे प्रतिनिधित्व करणारे शेकडो मेन्स राइट्स कार्यकर्ते या अधिवेशनासाठी जमले होते.

...तर स्वातंत्र्यदिन मानणार नाही

सरकारकडून पुरुषाला हीन वागणूक मिळते. त्याच्या भावना कधीच जाणून घेतल्या जात नाहीत. केवळ महिलांच्याच वाट्याला सहानुभूती येते. सरकार, न्यायालय केवळ महिलांचीच बाजू ऐकते. पुरुषाला तर बोलण्याचा अधिकारच नाही. चहूबाजूंनी पुरुषांची मुस्कटदाबी होते. अनेकदा महिलांकडून त्यांच्या बाजूने असलेल्या कायद्यांचा गैरवापर केला जातो. केवळ वचपा म्हणून तर कधी काही स्वार्थ साधण्यासाठी पुरुषांवर खोटे गुन्हे दाखल करण्यात येतात. मग पुरुष स्वतंत्र कसा, असा सवाल अधिवेशनात उपस्थित करण्यात आला. सरकारने पुरुषांच्या बाजूने विचार न केल्यास स्वातंत्र्यदिन साजरा का करायचा, असा सवालही उपस्थित करण्यात आला.

संशोधनाची गरज

सध्या पुरुषांसाठी भारतामध्ये पुरुष हक्क, पुरुषांच्या मानसिक व शारीरिक समस्या या विषयावर कुठेही कसलाही संशोधन किंवा शैक्षणिक आभ्यासक्रम अस्तित्वात नाही. असशा संशोधन किंवा शैक्षणिक अभ्यासक्रमाची नितांत गरज असल्याचे मत ' सिफ ' ने अधिवेशनात मांडले. अशा अभ्यासक्रमामुळे पुरुषत्वाची जाणीव लोकांपर्यंत पोहाचेल ज्यामुळे समाजात पुरुषांला चांगले जीवन जगता येईल, व चांगला समाज घडेल, असे मत व्यक्त करण्यात आले.

हाच खरा भेदाभेद

समाजातील गुन्हे आणि समस्यांसाठी केवळ पुरुषांनाच जबाबदार व गृहित धरण्यात येते. अनेक घटनांत तर महिलांनी पुरुषांपेक्षा कितीतरी गंभीर गुन्हे केले आहेत. ते कधीच प्रकाशात येत नाहीत. इथे मग ' समानता ' कुठे गेली? जर समाज पुरुषाला मानसन्मान देऊ शकत नसेल, तर त्या समाजाने पुरुषांकडून कुठलीच अपेक्षा करून नये. त्याला शिक्षा करण्याचा किंवा त्याला दोष देण्याचाही अधिकार नाही, असे स्पष्ट मत ' सिफ ' चे मध्य भारत अध्यक्ष राजेश वखारिया व अन्य मान्यवरांनी व्यक्त केले. अधिवेशनादरम्यान ३० सत्रांत पुरुषांच्या विविध समस्यांवर विचारमंथन झाले.

असे हे ठराव

- पुरुषाला शांततामय जीवन जगण्याचा अधिकार आहे.
- पुरुषाला कायदेशीर रूपात निःपक्ष व समान अधिकार मिळावेत, जे लिंगभेदरहित असावेत.
- प्रोस्टेट कॅन्सर, पार्किन्सन्स, हृदयविकार आदी आजारांपासून त्यांना रोखण्याकरिता पुरेशी आर्थिक गुंतवणूक करण्याची गरज आहे.
- पुरुषांबद्दलचे पूर्वग्रह दूर व्हावेत. त्यासाठी पुरुष कल्याण मंत्रालयाची स्थापना करण्यात यावी.
- फादर्स राइट्सचे रक्षण करून शेअर पॅरेंटिंगला मान्यता देण्यात यावी.
- संसदेसमोर येऊ घातलेला हिंदू विवाह संशोधन कायदा संमत न करता खारिज करावा. 


http://maharashtratimes.indiatimes.com/maharashtra/nagpur-vidarbha/--/articleshow/21958614.cms 

Tuesday, 20 August 2013

Tamil Nadu tops country in cases of domestic violence

Tamil Nadu tops country in cases of domestic violence

CHENNAI: Disturbing statistics released by the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) show that domestic violence is much more prevalent in Tamil Nadu than any other state in the country.
The NCRB data shows the state registered 3,838 cases of domestic violence in 2012 — or 84% of all complaints (4,567) of domestic violence recorded across the country.

Tamil Nadu recorded the most cases of domestic violence in the country, 3,983, last year too, a finding cited by minister for women and child development Krishna Tirath on August 14.
Experts offer several reasons for the high numbers in the state. These include greater awareness about the law in Tamil Nadu and due to an increase in education among women. Police officers, however, say tolerance levels are plunging among young couples, and this has led to a spurt in complaints.
Most complainants are women from middle-class and upper middle-class families.
The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act was enacted by the Union government in 2005 to protect women from violence at home.

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-08-19/india/41424743_1_domestic-violence-act-tamil-nadu-ncrb 

Thursday, 15 August 2013

Woman cop held taking bribe


Domestic violence on Senior Citizens : Kanpur


husbands harassed by wife


498a misuse -3


lawful steps


Domestic violence affects men too


Tables turn: Men harassed

Tables turn: Men harassed

In 2011, when Ashish (name changed) landed a high-paying government job, his parents were on cloud nine. Little did they know what the future had in store for him: Hikes and promotions being denied because of a 40-year-old divorcee. A married man, Ashish initially could not understand why his boss would often invite him home for dinner, call him to her cabin or ask how she looked?
“It was when she started abusing me in public did I realise that she was angry as I had refused her overtures. She made my life miserable after that. I was loaded with work. And when the time came for hikes and promotions, I was given a bad rating. My hard work turned to dust,” he lamented. Talking to the H R department or other authorities yielded no results. “People would laugh at me. Men being harassed at work places is unheard of. Many presume that a man would actually enjoy it. I had to quit my job when all options were closed,” he adds.
The Ministry of Women and Child Development, in order to implement the Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace (Prevention, Prohibition and Redressal) Act 2013, which came into being in February, defined some finer details. These state that sexual harassment at a workplace may lead to termination of service of the accused, withholding of promotions and increments, and payment of reasonable compensation to the complainant. However, the Act only provides for aggrieved women, although the offense itself is gender neutral.
“The government is failing to recognise that sexual harassment is not a crime of passion, but a crime acted out to show dominance. In many cases, the aggressor may even be of the same sex,” explains Arnab Ganguly, a member of INSAAF (Indian Social Awareness and Activism Forum), an international NGO specialising in gender and social research, with branches in the United States and India. “The Act, however, does include a provision on “misuse” of the legislation, but it’s a very watered down version. The fine against people who misuse this Act is only `500 or 5 per cent of the aggressor’s salary, which doesn’t really act as a very serious deterrent to perpetrators,” informs Arnab.
The Save Indian Family Foundation along with INSAAF have tirelessly campaigned against the bill, so as to make it gender neutral. The fact that in India the definition of sexual assault incorporates men but the definition of sexual harassment refuses to consider men as victims seems preposterous, especially in the light of the research conducted by Synovate, a market research firm, across six Indian cities. The research states that in Bangalore alone, half of those who confessed to being sexually harassed at work had been harassed by women. Only 32 per cent said they were harassed by male colleagues.
“Although the new Act doesn’t provide for men as victims, most of the internal committees set up by companies to investigate sexual harassment are gender neutral. I usually sit in on many of these meetings as an external adviser and a lot of these cases have been filed by men as well. Companies now are being very open to issues faced by men at the workplace and take them very seriously,” says Kanti Joshi, an advocate who works with SASHA ( Support against Sexual Harassment), the consultancy arm of the NGO, IDEA (Integrated Developmental Education Academy) established to raise awareness and provide support services against sexual harassment.
Mohit Sharma (name changed), a senior architect who was working with a prominent design firm in the city, was fired unceremoniously because of allegations raised against him by a junior designer. “She wanted me to recommend her for a senior position when she clearly wasn’t ready. She flirted excessively and asked me to accompany her on coffee dates and when I didn’t comply she immediately complained to the HR, saying I was mistreating her and also alleged that I had made unwelcome advances towards her, when it was the other way around,” rues Mohit. His complaints simply echoed up the chain of command and were ignored in favour of the woman’s allegations, and after three months of fervent discussions back and forth, he was asked to leave the firm.
Atit Rajpara, president, Men’s Rights Association said that he gets more than 40 calls a month by men recalling horrifying incidents of sexual harassment at workplace.
Recalling a recent case, Rajpara said,” Shashi (name changed), an MNC employee was continuously harassed by his colleague, who wanted to marry him. When he stopped responding to her calls or messages, she landed at his doorstep and created a big scene.” Frustrated by this, Shashi filed a formal complaint with the HR. The woman was let off after a light warning but the harassment continued. She even blackmailed him that if he complained again, she would file a case against him for harassment. Despite repeated complaints, the woman continues to work with the company but Shashi was forced put in his papers. Rajpara added that in most cases men are mocked at when they talk about harassment. He said, “Sexual harassment should not be based on gender. It can happen to anyone, anytime. That’s why men never get justice.”
Women often misuse their rights and blame people at work places to get their way. In 2012, Shrishti Saxena used the same tactics. Being handed too much work by her boss, she decided to teach him a ‘lesson’. Instead of discussing the issue with him, she approached the HR and filed a sexual harassment complaint against him. Serious action was taken against the manager and Shrishti sighed a breath of relief.
Virag Dhulia, head of gender studies, Confidare India, a Bangalore-based research centre said that he gets more than three calls a month by men who have been harassed at work. “Gone are those days when offices were male dominated. These days a lot of women are handling top positions,” he said.
The centre has received calls on cases where women have tried to make advances towards their junior or colleague, asked them to stay back late at work,  threatened higher work burden and used lewd comments or abusive language. “The worst part is that companies don’t take these complaints seriously. The attitude is very insensitive towards men,” he said. Confidare runs a helpline, 9008302822, for those who are victims of sexual harassment.
 
 
http://newindianexpress.com/cities/bangalore/Tables-turn-Men-harassed/2013/08/14/article1732962.ece 

तुटणारी कुटुंबे वाचवा...

तुटणारी कुटुंबे वाचवा...

कौटुंबिक हिंसाचारासारख्या एकतर्फी कायद्यामुळे अनेक कुटुंबे तुटत आहेत. हे कायदे बदलण्यासाठी एनजीओंसह नागरिकांनीही पुढे यावे, असे आवाहन करीत केरळमधील चार युवक सायकलने भारतभ्रमणासाठी निघाले. सोमवारी ते नागपुरात दाखल झाले. 'सेव्ह इंडियन फॅमिली'सह 'सेव्ह एनर्जी', 'स्टे हेल्दी' असाही नारा ते देत आहेत.

पुरुषावकासा समरक्षणा समितीचे हे युवक आहेत. केरळातील त्रिचूर येथून २८ जुलै रोजी ते सायकलने निघाले. उत्तर भारतमार्गे ते जम्मू-काश्मिरात लद्दाखमध्ये पोहचतील. ५५ दिवसांचा त्यांचा हा प्रवास आहे. सोमवारी त्यांनी दीक्षाभूमीला भेट दिली. या रॅलीत पी. आर. गोकुल हे सेव्ह इंडियन फॅमिली, सी. डी. फ्रान्सिस सेव्ह एनर्जी तर लिओ जोसेफ व शर्पिन पी. टी. स्टे हेल्दी असा नारा देत आहेत.

कौटुंबिक हिंसाचार, हुंडाबळीचा ४९८ (अ) हे कायदे फक्त महिलांच्या बाजूने आहेत. त्यांचा अनेकदा गैरवापर होताना दिसतो. त्यात पती व त्याच्या कुटुंबीयांना त्रास सोसावा लागतो. या कायद्यात बदल करावेत, अशी मागणी या रॅलीतून करण्यात येणार आहे. तसेच, इतर एनजीओंनीही त्यासाठी पुढाकार घ्यावा, असे आवाहन करण्यात येणार आहे. 


http://maharashtratimes.indiatimes.com/articleshow/21809516.cms?prtpage=1 

Monday, 5 August 2013

Safe house for battered men

Safe house for battered men

India’s first domestic violence shelter for men opens its doors in Bangalore. Here’s one harassed husband’s story from inside the shelter. Francis Steven Dokka reports

For three months, a barely-furnished two-bedroom apartment on Bannerghatta Main Road was "heaven" for Prithvi (31). The apartment is a good advert for 'bare and minimum'--bean bags and plastic chairs in the living room; mats and bedsheets for bedding and a kitchen that has nothing more than essentials --a fridge, gas stove, some plates and glasses, and filtered water cans. The place is bereft of anything that usually makes a cold house a warm home. But for many harassed husbands this has been 'heaven' when their own homes turned hellish. Welcome to India's first domestic violence shelter for men.
 
The shelter was started on April 19 this year by Confidare Consultancy, a Bangalore-based men’s rights organisation founded by techies Anil Kumar, Virag Dhulia, Pandurang Katti and Mithun Kumar. These names are well-known in India’s men’s rights movement. They have made representations before the Indian Parliament and the US Senate. The safe haven for men operates out of an apartment owned by one of the founders and is an offshoot of the Men's Rights Community Center run by Confidare in Koramangala. Anil says, “Actually, the defining moment to start the shelter came many years ago when we started helplines for men facing domestic violence. The domestic violence shelter was just a logical extension of the helplines. Abused men are often coached by us to leave the abusive spaces (their homes) and go to paying guest or shared accommodations. Sometimes, we temporarily accommodate these abused men in our own houses for a few days. Declaring a complete house as a domestic violence shelter became the next logical step. It is not natural for men to run away from homes if they face abuse, because somehow society considers it unmanly, if a man runs away. Please note, we do not advise men to file for divorce. We suggest that they move to some other location to get some peace and recover.”
 
 
How Prithvi landed in the shelter is part of a bigger marital story — similar to ones being played out across India. Prithvi, a native of Hyderabad, was working at an IT firm in Bangalore, when he married a BTech graduate from West Godavari district in Andhra Pradesh four years ago. Soon, their marriage hit rough weather. Prithvi says, “My wife was treating me like an ATM. She began to frequently make outrageous demands that I buy her jewellery, take her to restaurants and movies. She didn’t understand that a family cannot afford to splurge all the time. When I didn’t meet her demands, she began complaining to her parents.” 
 
“Before we tied the knot, she promised to work after marriage to meet family expenses as Bangalore is a costly city. But after marriage, she did a U-turn. She refused to work. She began to taunt me with 'Can’t you feed your wife? Do you want your wife to earn and feed you?' queries. She wanted to stay at home and enjoy life. Another major disagreement was having kids. I wanted to have children but she wanted to wait.” 
 
Last October, their marital problems reached boiling point. “Our arguments aggravated. She left me and went to her parents. I requested her to return many times but she declined. Finally, I went to her parents’ house to ask her to come home. She told me she would return only if I signed half of my property in her name or give her Rs 15 lakh as financial guarantee. I flatly rejected her conditions. She hit back by filing a criminal case against me under the Domestic Violence Act alleging that I had harassed her for dowry. In addition, she filed a case seeking maintenance from me. Both the cases were filed in AP just to harass me. She then mailed FIR copies to my employer and even sent a telegram to my work place to portray me as a criminal. Thanks to her, I lost my job. With cops chasing me and unemployed, I became depressed. I even thought of suicide. That’s when I got in touch with Confidare Consultancy and became its member.” 
 
Prithvi landed at the shelter in April with two bags of clothes, some books, and almost broke. “I was once making Rs 50,000 a month and lived in a good house in Indiranagar paying Rs 12,000 as rent. Now, I couldn’t afford to rent a place. I needed a place my wife could not trace because I had to protect myself. I was fortunate to find this sanctuary. Considering my financial condition, Confidare even waived the fee.” Confidare charges a person Rs 150 per day to stay at the shelter. Inmates must make their own arrangements for food. No deposit is taken. Pandurang Katti, care-taker of the shelter, says, “This facility operates on trust. Those wanting to stay here must be members for at least six months and should gain our trust.” Pandurang emphasises it is not a “paying guest” facility.
 
At Confidare, Prithvi was given legal advice, apprised of his rights as a man and coached how to defend himself in court. “I also received moral support there,” says Prithvi. The safe house can shelter four men at any given time. Katti says: “As of now, we are not equipped enough if men flood the place. That’s why we don’t want to publicise its address.We do not have the bandwidth to run it on a 24/7 basis.” 
 
How does Confidare ensure that it doesn’t end up accommodating at the shelter men who have committed crimes against women? Virag says, “We don’t judge anyone. The courts are there to judge who is innocent or guilty. We only support to those who approach us. Generally, men who have committed crimes do not approach us. Such people need not approach us.The center’s aim is to help provide men temporary stay so that they can stabilise themselves.”
 
At the shelter, Prithvi slowly began to pick up the pieces of his broken life. “When I came to the safe house, I was vulnerable and on the verge of losing my mind. However, at the shelter I got back peace of mind. I began to think of my future course of action and started looking for a job.” 
 
At the shelter Prithvi would wake up at 7 am, sweep the apartment and make breakfast. At 10 am, he would study law books for a couple of hours. He would then head out for lunch. Post lunch, he would either take a nap or go to an internet centre to apply for jobs. Evening, would again be study time followed by dinner and sleep. He quips, “It was good to get some sleep after many sleepless nights.” 
 
The routine changed when new inmates arrived. He would interact with them a lot and listen to their stories. “It helped to meet other men like me there. Some of their stories were way worse than mine.” During weekends, he used to volunteer at Confidare’s community centre in Koramangala and counsel other men.
 
The stay at the shelter was also a humbling experience for Prithvi. “I once lived very well. Here I was having lunch and dinner at roadside eateries. I was living on money given by my retired parents, relatives and friends.” 
 
Anil says, “So far, six guys have stayed in the shelter, while about 30 approached us to use the facility.” Anil is already thinking of what will follow the shelter. “As it is certain that a lot of men may not marry due to ever increasing complicated laws of marriage and the high costs involved, the next logical step is to create hostels and old age assisted-living facilities for such men, which can provide them some security at old age. All this is part of a budding global men's movement called MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way), where men may not really seek committed female companionship or even children, but rather prefer a peaceful or even monk like existence enriching their lives.” 
 
Meanwhile, Prithvi’s job hunt has paid off. He moved out of the shelter last week after he was hired by an IT firm in a city in South India. He does not see any chance of reconciliation with his wife. He wants to fight out all the cases filed by his wife. He says, “My priority is to live peacefully and contribute something to society.” That’s a big change in a man who entered the domestic violence shelter three months ago contemplating suicide.

Community of confidants
Confidare Consultancy offers help for husbands physically or verbally abused, or facing threats from their wives or in-laws. Its clientele includes men facing police complaints and court cases related to marital issues. It offers members coaching and education to be peaceful and fight court cases effectively. Men seeking help from Confidare are required to become members by paying a fee – Rs 2,500 for six months and Rs 4,500 for one year. Membership is also open to NRIs. Confidare also runs a Men’s Rights Community Center in Koramangala. The center offers members access to basic law books, legal citations, reference material, and videos related to laws and men’s rights.Anil says, “Our support group meetings are like Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, where men feel peaceful and free in spite of abuse and threats they face.” At one point of time, a majority of Confidare’s members were techies. Virag says, “Now, we have members from all strata of the society because men are being abused irrespective of their position in society. We have members who are auto drivers and bank attenders.“Helpline: 9008302822