Monday 5 August 2013
Study blames women for crimes against them
THIRUVANANTHAPURAM:
At a time when governments are trying to provide more safety to women, a
study report prepared by the Institute of Social Sciences, New Delhi,
for the state police on various causes for crimes against women seems to
be anti-women and regressive. The study cites economic independence of
women, their response to crimes against them, dressing pattern, use of
mobile phones by youngsters, boundaries of male-female relationships and
ignorance on the part of women about their position as the causes,
apart from some 50-odd disputable reasons.
The study collected data from 181 victims, 197 police officers, 40 social workers and 44 citizens with the sample size totalling to 462. The report 'Women Victims of Crimes in Kerala 2012-13' was prepared by Dr L Thara Bhai, a research coordinator of the institute. State police chief K S Balasubramanian received the report on Thursday. The office of the state police chief had taken up this initiative during 2012-13 with the help of the institute.
The study collected data from 181 victims, 197 police officers, 40 social workers and 44 citizens with the sample size totalling to 462. The report 'Women Victims of Crimes in Kerala 2012-13' was prepared by Dr L Thara Bhai, a research coordinator of the institute. State police chief K S Balasubramanian received the report on Thursday. The office of the state police chief had taken up this initiative during 2012-13 with the help of the institute.
It is claimed in the submitted report that the prescriptive study to
find causes also found solutions from public, social workers, police
officers and victims themselves. The study gathered information
regarding the victims' status after the crime was committed, their
recovery and return to normalcy.
The study also found that crime against women is more visible among backward castes and SC/ST families, and 47.27% of the victims are from financially backward homes. "Income of the accused and crimes against women are correlated. Lesser the income, more the hatred towards the women in the family," stated the study that blamed poverty and alcoholism as the main causes for such crimes.
Thiruvananthapuram: At a time when governments are trying to provide more safety, freedom, respect and equality for women, various causes for crimes against women listed out in a study report prepared by the Institute of Social Sciences, New Delhi for the Kerala police are clearly anti-women and regressive.
The study carried out by the prestigious institute for State Police cites economic independence of women, women responding to crimes against them, dressing pattern, use of mobile phones by young girls and boys, cutting boundaries of male- female relationships and unawareness from the part of women of their position, are the causes of growing crimes against women, apart from other 50-odd disputable reasons.
The report 'Women Victims of Crimes in Kerala 2012-13' was prepared by Dr L Thara Bhai, research coordinator of the institute. State police chief K S Balasubramanian received the study report at the police headquarters on Thursday. According to the report, the office of the Kerala State Police Chief took the initiative to conduct a study on women victims of crimes in the state during 2012-13 with the help of the institute.
It is claimed in the submitted report that the 'prescriptive study aimed to find causes and tried to find solutions either from the public, or from the social workers or from the police officers or from the victim themselves and 'gathered information regarding the victims' status after the crime was committed on them and the long process of coming back to normalcy'.
The study also finds that crime on women is more seen among the backward castes and SC/ST families. Majority (47.27%) of the victims have are financially backward homes. 'Income of the accused and the crime on women are correlated. Lesser the income more the hatred to the women in the family,' according to the study that finds poverty coupled with alcoholism as the root causes for crimes in the study.
The data for the study were collected from 181 victims, 197 police officers, 40 social workers and 44 general public coming to a total sample size of 462.
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-08-01/thiruvananthapuram/40960516_1_women-victims-social-sciences-crimes
The study also found that crime against women is more visible among backward castes and SC/ST families, and 47.27% of the victims are from financially backward homes. "Income of the accused and crimes against women are correlated. Lesser the income, more the hatred towards the women in the family," stated the study that blamed poverty and alcoholism as the main causes for such crimes.
Thiruvananthapuram: At a time when governments are trying to provide more safety, freedom, respect and equality for women, various causes for crimes against women listed out in a study report prepared by the Institute of Social Sciences, New Delhi for the Kerala police are clearly anti-women and regressive.
The study carried out by the prestigious institute for State Police cites economic independence of women, women responding to crimes against them, dressing pattern, use of mobile phones by young girls and boys, cutting boundaries of male- female relationships and unawareness from the part of women of their position, are the causes of growing crimes against women, apart from other 50-odd disputable reasons.
The report 'Women Victims of Crimes in Kerala 2012-13' was prepared by Dr L Thara Bhai, research coordinator of the institute. State police chief K S Balasubramanian received the study report at the police headquarters on Thursday. According to the report, the office of the Kerala State Police Chief took the initiative to conduct a study on women victims of crimes in the state during 2012-13 with the help of the institute.
It is claimed in the submitted report that the 'prescriptive study aimed to find causes and tried to find solutions either from the public, or from the social workers or from the police officers or from the victim themselves and 'gathered information regarding the victims' status after the crime was committed on them and the long process of coming back to normalcy'.
The study also finds that crime on women is more seen among the backward castes and SC/ST families. Majority (47.27%) of the victims have are financially backward homes. 'Income of the accused and the crime on women are correlated. Lesser the income more the hatred to the women in the family,' according to the study that finds poverty coupled with alcoholism as the root causes for crimes in the study.
The data for the study were collected from 181 victims, 197 police officers, 40 social workers and 44 general public coming to a total sample size of 462.
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-08-01/thiruvananthapuram/40960516_1_women-victims-social-sciences-crimes
Youth jumps from 5th floor of court buildin
KANPUR: A youth jumped from the fifth floor of the multi-storey
building of Kanpur Nagar on Saturday. He was immediately rushed to the
UHM Hospital where doctors pronounced him dead. He was later identified
as Anuj Kumar Gupta.
A suicide note was recovered from the body, wherein Anuj had accused his wife and in-laws of harassment. In the suicide note, Anuj, who had a grocery shop at Canal Road, said that on June 16, his wife had shifted to her parents' house along with all valuables and cash worth Rs 1 lakh.
At that time, he was in his shop. After coming to know of the incident, he contacted his in-laws but was abused and threatened of dire consequences. The in-laws demanded that he provide a space in his shop for his brother-in-law to run a business.
Anuj further wrote that he had submitted a complaint with the police and a copy of it to the SSP. However, the police took no action. In the letter, Anuj also accused his father-in-law of physical exploitation.
On Saturday, Anuj had rushed to the court to meet his counsel after receiving a call.
However, after failing to locate the counsel, he climbed to the fifth floor and jumped from there. The police informed his elder brother Amit Gupta of the incident.
After reaching the court premises, Amit told police that Anuj was in his shop till 11 am. After receiving a call, he rushed to the Birhana Road. Amit also said that he repeatedly tried to contact Anuj but his mobile was switched off.
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-08-04/kanpur/41057180_1_court-building-suicide-note-grocery-shop
A suicide note was recovered from the body, wherein Anuj had accused his wife and in-laws of harassment. In the suicide note, Anuj, who had a grocery shop at Canal Road, said that on June 16, his wife had shifted to her parents' house along with all valuables and cash worth Rs 1 lakh.
At that time, he was in his shop. After coming to know of the incident, he contacted his in-laws but was abused and threatened of dire consequences. The in-laws demanded that he provide a space in his shop for his brother-in-law to run a business.
Anuj further wrote that he had submitted a complaint with the police and a copy of it to the SSP. However, the police took no action. In the letter, Anuj also accused his father-in-law of physical exploitation.
On Saturday, Anuj had rushed to the court to meet his counsel after receiving a call.
However, after failing to locate the counsel, he climbed to the fifth floor and jumped from there. The police informed his elder brother Amit Gupta of the incident.
After reaching the court premises, Amit told police that Anuj was in his shop till 11 am. After receiving a call, he rushed to the Birhana Road. Amit also said that he repeatedly tried to contact Anuj but his mobile was switched off.
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-08-04/kanpur/41057180_1_court-building-suicide-note-grocery-shop
न्यायालय भवन से कूद युवक ने दी जान
न्यायालय भवन से कूद युवक ने दी जान
न्यायालय भवन में शनिवार अपराह्न डेढ़ बजे एक युवक के पांचवी मंजिल से छलांग लगाने के बाद हड़कंप मच गया। सूचना पर कचहरी चौकी इंचार्ज अखिलेश गौड़ मौके पर पहुंचे और युवक को उर्सला ले गए जहां डाक्टरों ने उसे मृत घोषित कर दिया। तलाशी के दौरान मृतक की जेब से एक प्रार्थना पत्र व एक समाचार पत्र का आईकार्ड मिला। प्रार्थना पत्र के पीछे मृतक ने सुसाइड नोट भी लिखा था। पुलिस ने प्रार्थना पत्र पर लिखे पते पर सूचना दी तो फीलखाना निवासी अमित गुप्ता ने मौके पर पहुंचकर मृतक की शिनाख्त छोटे भाई अनुज गुप्ता के रूप में की। अमित के मुताबिक अनुज कैनाल रोड स्थित अपनी दुकान में थे। पूर्वाह्न 11 बजे एक फोन आया जिसके बाद वह बिरहाना रोड जाने की बात कहकर चले गए। अपराह्न 1:30 बजे पुलिस ने घटना की जानकारी दी।
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ससुराल वालों से था प्रताड़ित
बड़े भाई अमित के मुताबिक अनुज की शादी चार साल पहले इटावा बाजार की प्रगति संग इस शर्त पर हुई थी कि वह उसे लेकर परिवार से अलग रहेगा। प्रगति विदा होने के बाद ससुराल न आकर किराए के घर में रहने गई थी। परिवार से अलग रहने के कारण अनुज पर ससुराल वालों का दबाव था। वह अक्सर उसके साथ मारपीट करते थे। इस बात का जिक्र अनुज ने 22 जून को एसएसपी को दिए प्रार्थना पत्र में भी किया था। पत्र के मुताबिक 16 जून को उसकी गैर मौजूदगी में ससुर राम बिहारी, सास शीला, साढू़ प्रशांत कई लोगों के साथ घर आए थे। एक लाख नकद व सोने के गहनों के साथ पत्नी को लेकर चले गए थे। उसने ससुराल वालों से संपर्क किया तो उन्होंने जान से मारने की धमकी देते हुए कहा कि जब तक अपनी दुकान में साढ़ू को जगह नहीं दोगे तब तक न तो सामान वापस होगा और न ही पत्नी आएगी।
ससुर पर लगाया गंभीर आरोप
तलाशी में अनुज के पास पुलिस को जो प्रार्थना पत्र मिला, उसी के पीछे सुसाइड नोट लिखा है। इसमें ससुर पर जबरन अप्राकृतिक यौन संबंध बनाने का आरोप लगाया गया है। आरोप है कि ससुर इस बात पर ब्लैकमेल करने के साथ दुकान हड़पना चाहते थे।
दी थी मुकदमे की अर्जी
ससुराल वालों की प्रताड़ना से परेशान अनुज ने सीआरपीसी की धारा 156(3) के तहत पत्नी व ससुराल पक्ष के खिलाफ मुकदमे की अर्जी दी थी। इसमें फीलखाना पुलिस ने अपनी रिपोर्ट भी लगा दी है। अधिवक्ता शैलेंद्र चौरसिया के मुताबिक उन्होंने एक मुकदमा मीडिएशन सेंटर में भी दाखिल किया था। उधर, पत्नी के दहेज प्रार्थना पत्र पर मध्यस्थता एवं सुलह समझौता केंद्र में दोनों के बीच एक बार बात भी हो चुकी थी।
http://www.jagran.com/uttar-pradesh/kanpur-city-10619157.html
Safe house for battered men
Safe house for battered men
India’s first domestic violence shelter for men opens its doors in Bangalore. Here’s one harassed husband’s story from inside the shelter. Francis Steven Dokka reports
For three months, a barely-furnished two-bedroom apartment on Bannerghatta Main Road was "heaven" for Prithvi (31). The apartment is a good advert for 'bare and minimum'--bean bags and plastic chairs in the living room; mats and bedsheets for bedding and a kitchen that has nothing more than essentials --a fridge, gas stove, some plates and glasses, and filtered water cans. The place is bereft of anything that usually makes a cold house a warm home. But for many harassed husbands this has been 'heaven' when their own homes turned hellish. Welcome to India's first domestic violence shelter for men.
India’s first domestic violence shelter for men opens its doors in Bangalore. Here’s one harassed husband’s story from inside the shelter. Francis Steven Dokka reports
For three months, a barely-furnished two-bedroom apartment on Bannerghatta Main Road was "heaven" for Prithvi (31). The apartment is a good advert for 'bare and minimum'--bean bags and plastic chairs in the living room; mats and bedsheets for bedding and a kitchen that has nothing more than essentials --a fridge, gas stove, some plates and glasses, and filtered water cans. The place is bereft of anything that usually makes a cold house a warm home. But for many harassed husbands this has been 'heaven' when their own homes turned hellish. Welcome to India's first domestic violence shelter for men.
The shelter was started on April 19 this year by Confidare
Consultancy, a Bangalore-based men’s rights organisation founded by
techies Anil Kumar, Virag Dhulia, Pandurang Katti and Mithun Kumar.
These names are well-known in India’s men’s rights movement. They have
made representations before the Indian Parliament and the US Senate. The
safe haven for men operates out of an apartment owned by one of the
founders and is an offshoot of the Men's Rights Community Center run by
Confidare in Koramangala. Anil says, “Actually, the defining moment to
start the shelter came many years ago when we started helplines for men
facing domestic violence. The domestic violence shelter was just a
logical extension of the helplines. Abused men are often coached by us
to leave the abusive spaces (their homes) and go to paying guest or
shared accommodations. Sometimes, we temporarily accommodate these
abused men in our own houses for a few days. Declaring a complete house
as a domestic violence shelter became the next logical step. It is not
natural for men to run away from homes if they face abuse, because
somehow society considers it unmanly, if a man runs away. Please note,
we do not advise men to file for divorce. We suggest that they move to
some other location to get some peace and recover.”
How Prithvi landed in the shelter is part of a bigger marital story
— similar to ones being played out across India. Prithvi, a native of
Hyderabad, was working at an IT firm in Bangalore, when he married a
BTech graduate from West Godavari district in Andhra Pradesh four years
ago. Soon, their marriage hit rough weather. Prithvi says, “My wife was
treating me like an ATM. She began to frequently make outrageous demands
that I buy her jewellery, take her to restaurants and movies. She
didn’t understand that a family cannot afford to splurge all the time.
When I didn’t meet her demands, she began complaining to her parents.”
“Before we tied the knot, she promised to work after marriage to
meet family expenses as Bangalore is a costly city. But after marriage,
she did a U-turn. She refused to work. She began to taunt me with 'Can’t
you feed your wife? Do you want your wife to earn and feed you?'
queries. She wanted to stay at home and enjoy life. Another major
disagreement was having kids. I wanted to have children but she wanted
to wait.”
Last October, their marital problems reached boiling point. “Our
arguments aggravated. She left me and went to her parents. I requested
her to return many times but she declined. Finally, I went to her
parents’ house to ask her to come home. She told me she would return
only if I signed half of my property in her name or give her Rs 15 lakh
as financial guarantee. I flatly rejected her conditions. She hit back
by filing a criminal case against me under the Domestic Violence Act
alleging that I had harassed her for dowry. In addition, she filed a
case seeking maintenance from me. Both the cases were filed in AP just
to harass me. She then mailed FIR copies to my employer and even sent a
telegram to my work place to portray me as a criminal. Thanks to her, I
lost my job. With cops chasing me and unemployed, I became depressed. I
even thought of suicide. That’s when I got in touch with Confidare
Consultancy and became its member.”
Prithvi landed at the shelter in April with two bags of clothes,
some books, and almost broke. “I was once making Rs 50,000 a month and
lived in a good house in Indiranagar paying Rs 12,000 as rent. Now, I
couldn’t afford to rent a place. I needed a place my wife could not
trace because I had to protect myself. I was fortunate to find this
sanctuary. Considering my financial condition, Confidare even waived the
fee.” Confidare charges a person Rs 150 per day to stay at the shelter.
Inmates must make their own arrangements for food. No deposit is taken.
Pandurang Katti, care-taker of the shelter, says, “This facility
operates on trust. Those wanting to stay here must be members for at
least six months and should gain our trust.” Pandurang emphasises it is
not a “paying guest” facility.
At Confidare, Prithvi was given legal advice, apprised of his
rights as a man and coached how to defend himself in court. “I also
received moral support there,” says Prithvi. The safe house can shelter
four men at any given time. Katti says: “As of now, we are not equipped
enough if men flood the place. That’s why we don’t want to publicise its
address.We do not have the bandwidth to run it on a 24/7 basis.”
How does Confidare ensure that it doesn’t end up accommodating at
the shelter men who have committed crimes against women? Virag says, “We
don’t judge anyone. The courts are there to judge who is innocent or
guilty. We only support to those who approach us. Generally, men who
have committed crimes do not approach us. Such people need not approach
us.The center’s aim is to help provide men temporary stay so that they
can stabilise themselves.”
At the shelter, Prithvi slowly began to pick up the pieces of his
broken life. “When I came to the safe house, I was vulnerable and on the
verge of losing my mind. However, at the shelter I got back peace of
mind. I began to think of my future course of action and started looking
for a job.”
At the shelter Prithvi would wake up at 7 am, sweep the apartment
and make breakfast. At 10 am, he would study law books for a couple of
hours. He would then head out for lunch. Post lunch, he would either
take a nap or go to an internet centre to apply for jobs. Evening, would
again be study time followed by dinner and sleep. He quips, “It was
good to get some sleep after many sleepless nights.”
The routine changed when new inmates arrived. He would interact
with them a lot and listen to their stories. “It helped to meet other
men like me there. Some of their stories were way worse than mine.”
During weekends, he used to volunteer at Confidare’s community centre in
Koramangala and counsel other men.
The stay at the shelter was also a humbling experience for Prithvi.
“I once lived very well. Here I was having lunch and dinner at roadside
eateries. I was living on money given by my retired parents, relatives
and friends.”
Anil says, “So far, six guys have stayed in the shelter, while
about 30 approached us to use the facility.” Anil is already thinking of
what will follow the shelter. “As it is certain that a lot of men may
not marry due to ever increasing complicated laws of marriage and the
high costs involved, the next logical step is to create hostels and old
age assisted-living facilities for such men, which can provide them some
security at old age. All this is part of a budding global men's
movement called MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way), where men may not
really seek committed female companionship or even children, but rather
prefer a peaceful or even monk like existence enriching their lives.”
Meanwhile, Prithvi’s job hunt has paid off. He moved out of the
shelter last week after he was hired by an IT firm in a city in South
India. He does not see any chance of reconciliation with his wife. He
wants to fight out all the cases filed by his wife. He says, “My
priority is to live peacefully and contribute something to society.”
That’s a big change in a man who entered the domestic violence shelter
three months ago contemplating suicide.
Community of confidants
Confidare Consultancy offers help for husbands physically or verbally abused, or facing threats from their wives or in-laws. Its clientele includes men facing police complaints and court cases related to marital issues. It offers members coaching and education to be peaceful and fight court cases effectively. Men seeking help from Confidare are required to become members by paying a fee – Rs 2,500 for six months and Rs 4,500 for one year. Membership is also open to NRIs. Confidare also runs a Men’s Rights Community Center in Koramangala. The center offers members access to basic law books, legal citations, reference material, and videos related to laws and men’s rights.Anil says, “Our support group meetings are like Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, where men feel peaceful and free in spite of abuse and threats they face.” At one point of time, a majority of Confidare’s members were techies. Virag says, “Now, we have members from all strata of the society because men are being abused irrespective of their position in society. We have members who are auto drivers and bank attenders.“Helpline: 9008302822
Community of confidants
Confidare Consultancy offers help for husbands physically or verbally abused, or facing threats from their wives or in-laws. Its clientele includes men facing police complaints and court cases related to marital issues. It offers members coaching and education to be peaceful and fight court cases effectively. Men seeking help from Confidare are required to become members by paying a fee – Rs 2,500 for six months and Rs 4,500 for one year. Membership is also open to NRIs. Confidare also runs a Men’s Rights Community Center in Koramangala. The center offers members access to basic law books, legal citations, reference material, and videos related to laws and men’s rights.Anil says, “Our support group meetings are like Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, where men feel peaceful and free in spite of abuse and threats they face.” At one point of time, a majority of Confidare’s members were techies. Virag says, “Now, we have members from all strata of the society because men are being abused irrespective of their position in society. We have members who are auto drivers and bank attenders.“Helpline: 9008302822
Live-in relationships breaking up at a rapid rate in Bangalore
Live-in relationships breaking up at a rapid rate in Bangalore
BANGALORE: This technology hub is witnessing a sharp rise in cases of discord in live-in relationships. Most cases reported are those of people working in the software and BPO industries.
"The number of cases of break-up in live-in relationships was 30 during 2011-12. This rose to 42 between April 2012 and March 2013. With an average of six cases reported every month, the number is expected to double this year," says Rani Shetty, chief coordinator with Mahila Sahaya Vani, a family counselling centre attached to city police.
For convenience
Most live-in couples are in the 25-35 age group. To get accommodation, they declare themselves a married couple. Counsellors say such relationships are for financial and social security. Things fall apart when the boy refuses to tie the knot.
Most live-in couples are from outside Karnataka. They find it convenient to live with someone from their own place. Things fall apart when the boy refuses to marry the girl. Only one case — that of Keshava and Arundhati (names changed) — was different. They lived together and had three children. The kids' school records and passports have the name of Keshava as father. But the marriage had not been solemnized as Keshava's parents refused to part with their property if he married Arundhati, says BS Saraswathi, senior counsellor.
To get a house on rent, live-in couples tell landlords they are married. "They live like husband and wife, but their relationship has no legal sanction. When there is a break-up, we refer it to police as a case of cheating," says Aparna Poonesh, a counsellor at the Sahaya Vani. "It's for social and financial security. Nearly 60% of the cases referred to us revolve around sex," says Shetty. Most cases brought to the Sahaya Vani are from the corporate world. "They get to know each other mostly through social media, and share the same language and culture. With their peer groups away, they have individual choices and freedom," she adds.
"Youngsters should be made aware of the problems of living together," says Shetty. "As the relationship doesn't have legal sanction, they need to be careful. Most cases brought to our notice are of women complaining that the men they had lived with refused to marry them."
Marriage dream shattered
Runa (name changed), 27, an employee of a software multinational in the US, was attracted to Bangalore while chatting online with Biswajit (name changed).
As the friendship grew, Biswajit, 30, invited her to the city and promised to find her a job. She quit her job and flew to Bangalore three years ago. After living at a paying guest accommodation for a while, she joined Biswajit, who had taken a house on rent declaring himself and Runa husband and wife.
Runa landed a job. Things went smoothly till Biswajit's parents starting asking him to get married.
One day, Biswajit suddenly disappeared. Runa learnt that he had gone to look for a bride.
On his return, they had an argument. Biswajit manhandled Runa, leading her to the Sahaya Vani. A case of cheating was registered after Biswajit refused, at the counselling sessions, to marry Runa.
Once having hoped the relationship would eventually lead to marriage, Runa is inconsolable today. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bangalore/Live-in-relationships-breaking-up-at-a-rapid-rate-in-Bangalore/articleshow/21612535.cms
BANGALORE: This technology hub is witnessing a sharp rise in cases of discord in live-in relationships. Most cases reported are those of people working in the software and BPO industries.
"The number of cases of break-up in live-in relationships was 30 during 2011-12. This rose to 42 between April 2012 and March 2013. With an average of six cases reported every month, the number is expected to double this year," says Rani Shetty, chief coordinator with Mahila Sahaya Vani, a family counselling centre attached to city police.
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Most live-in couples are in the 25-35 age group. To get accommodation, they declare themselves a married couple. Counsellors say such relationships are for financial and social security. Things fall apart when the boy refuses to tie the knot.
Most live-in couples are from outside Karnataka. They find it convenient to live with someone from their own place. Things fall apart when the boy refuses to marry the girl. Only one case — that of Keshava and Arundhati (names changed) — was different. They lived together and had three children. The kids' school records and passports have the name of Keshava as father. But the marriage had not been solemnized as Keshava's parents refused to part with their property if he married Arundhati, says BS Saraswathi, senior counsellor.
To get a house on rent, live-in couples tell landlords they are married. "They live like husband and wife, but their relationship has no legal sanction. When there is a break-up, we refer it to police as a case of cheating," says Aparna Poonesh, a counsellor at the Sahaya Vani. "It's for social and financial security. Nearly 60% of the cases referred to us revolve around sex," says Shetty. Most cases brought to the Sahaya Vani are from the corporate world. "They get to know each other mostly through social media, and share the same language and culture. With their peer groups away, they have individual choices and freedom," she adds.
"Youngsters should be made aware of the problems of living together," says Shetty. "As the relationship doesn't have legal sanction, they need to be careful. Most cases brought to our notice are of women complaining that the men they had lived with refused to marry them."
Marriage dream shattered
Runa (name changed), 27, an employee of a software multinational in the US, was attracted to Bangalore while chatting online with Biswajit (name changed).
As the friendship grew, Biswajit, 30, invited her to the city and promised to find her a job. She quit her job and flew to Bangalore three years ago. After living at a paying guest accommodation for a while, she joined Biswajit, who had taken a house on rent declaring himself and Runa husband and wife.
Runa landed a job. Things went smoothly till Biswajit's parents starting asking him to get married.
One day, Biswajit suddenly disappeared. Runa learnt that he had gone to look for a bride.
On his return, they had an argument. Biswajit manhandled Runa, leading her to the Sahaya Vani. A case of cheating was registered after Biswajit refused, at the counselling sessions, to marry Runa.
Once having hoped the relationship would eventually lead to marriage, Runa is inconsolable today. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bangalore/Live-in-relationships-breaking-up-at-a-rapid-rate-in-Bangalore/articleshow/21612535.cms
Mother of two elopes with 16-year-old
Mother of two elopes with 16-year-old
SURAT: A 30-year-old woman, mother of two children, eloped with a 16-year-old boy in Kalvada village of Valsad district around 10 days ago and returned as they had no money.
The woman took the teenager to Kalol and Ahmedabad along with her two kids. They stayed at these locations for 10 day and returned when they ran out of money.
According to reports, family of the minor boy contacted police since the boy was missing. However, the family came to know about a woman missing from neighbouring residence. Later, families of both the teenage boy and the woman started searching.
The woman had eloped with the boy with cash Rs 10,000. The boy returned home on Friday and described the entire incident to his parents. He informed his parents that he was in relationship with the woman since last few months.
The woman did not return home and went to her parent's residence along with her two children. She got married to a man, who works with Gundlav GIDC, around 10 years ago. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/surat/Mother-of-two-elopes-with-16-year-old/articleshow/21616881.cms
SURAT: A 30-year-old woman, mother of two children, eloped with a 16-year-old boy in Kalvada village of Valsad district around 10 days ago and returned as they had no money.
The woman took the teenager to Kalol and Ahmedabad along with her two kids. They stayed at these locations for 10 day and returned when they ran out of money.
According to reports, family of the minor boy contacted police since the boy was missing. However, the family came to know about a woman missing from neighbouring residence. Later, families of both the teenage boy and the woman started searching.
The woman had eloped with the boy with cash Rs 10,000. The boy returned home on Friday and described the entire incident to his parents. He informed his parents that he was in relationship with the woman since last few months.
The woman did not return home and went to her parent's residence along with her two children. She got married to a man, who works with Gundlav GIDC, around 10 years ago. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/surat/Mother-of-two-elopes-with-16-year-old/articleshow/21616881.cms
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